5 Ways To Bounce Back From A Big Mistake
By Dr. Kurt Smith
March 21, 2017 • Fact checked by Dumb Little Man
Everyone makes mistakes. The recent mistakes in the media with Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway announcing the wrong movie for Best Picture at the 2017 Oscars and Steve Harvey’s slip-up when he said the wrong name for Miss Universe 2015 are reminders that no one is perfect.
Some mistakes are easier to move past while others will go on to live forever. Whether your mistake is huge or just a tiny error, here are five ways that can help you with overcoming mistakes.
Be honest about what happened
Telling big or even little white lies to cover up a mistake can just put you into a downhill spiral. If a mistake has been made, take the hit and be responsible for what happened.
While it may be difficult to admit your error and feel foolish, these reactions are just short-lived. Lying to cover up the mistake will just create more problems in the long run.
Don’t beat yourself up over it
It’s normal to feel ashamed or embarrassed for a short period after making a mistake. You shouldn’t live on it or continue to build it up in your mind. You eventually have to accept it and move on. Keep in mind that the quicker you can accept it, the quicker you can recover.
Find an outlet that works for you to relieve stress. Talk to a friend or coworker, go for a quick walk around the building or journal your thoughts to give you some perspective and release.
See Also: 9 Ways We Can Reduce Our Stress Level
Apologize
Some people think that saying “I’m sorry” is a form of weakness, but it’s just the opposite. It shows that you can take responsibility for your actions and are willing to admit your mistakes. Whether you offended a friend or missed a deadline at work, apologizing takes courage and shows the other party that you understand what went wrong and you want to move on from it.
See Also: 5 Ways to Say Sorry
Put the mistake in perspective
Whether the mistake was a minor slip-up or a large-scale error, put it in perspective. There may be consequences to your actions, but think about how this mistake will affect you in 1, 5, or even 10 years.
Chances are, it won’t. If it is a life-altering mistake, then consider seeking counseling to help you cope with the consequences.
Learn from it
Take the blunders you make as a learning opportunity. Think about how the mistake happened.
Were you trying to get things done too fast? Were you sleep deprived? Had you had too much to drink?
Identify the factors that caused the mistake and think about what you can do differently next time to avoid doing it again.
Give yourself some grace and know that one mistake probably won’t derail your life or career. You are human and we all make mistakes. Some mistakes can even be turned into opportunities or used as motivation to do better going forward.
The most important thing when it comes to overcoming mistakes is to be smart about how you respond to them.
Dr. Kurt Smith
Dr. Kurt Smith is the Clinical Director of Guy Stuff Counseling & Coaching, a Northern California counseling practice that specializes in helping men and the women who love them. His expertise is in understanding men, their partners, and the unique relationship challenges couples face today. Dr. Kurt is a lover of dogs, sarcasm, everything outdoors, and helping those seeking to make their relationships better.