Making decisions isn’t that easy, particularly when it comes to major life decisions.
I know so many people that have faced these types of decisions and ended up remaining in a situation that is unfulfilling or even toxic. Not being able to know what the future holds can be daunting. It’s like you are standing in a dark forest and about to step into the unknown.
But you know what?
Sometimes, we just need a change in perspective to improve our decision making skills.
I cannot count the times that I have been confused by something only to have someone point out an obvious solution. This is because we easily lose sight when we are in the middle of a dilemma. Stress can overwhelm us to the point that we can’t see things clearly anymore.
If you are wondering how to become a better decision maker, here are a few helpful tips you can use:
1Weigh the pros and cons
Making a list is actually a useful way to get ideas sorted out in your brain.
Write down the positive aspects of doing something, and don’t forget to include the factors that required the decision in the first place. The negative aspects are also important, so write down any reason why you are feeling reluctant about taking action. Try to be honest about the consequences of acting and not taking action, too.
Think of it like managing a business.
Businesses need to take risks that can make them vulnerable at first but have a strong payout in the end. Even if the cons outweigh the pros now, keep going.
2Find a someone who has the same experience
Fight the urge to take the lazy route and Google a solution to the dilemma. If you do this, you are going to find a plethora of information and this is going to overwhelm you even more.
Although the right information may be helpful, real-life experience is better. So, find someone you respect and has been through the same situation you’re facing. Offer to buy him lunch or his favorite cup of coffee.
Be specific in your request so that you do not surprise the person and be honest about what you are seeking. This will give them the chance to decide if they feel comfortable sharing. If they do, they can prepare for the meeting.
Again, look at it as a business meeting. This will help you stay focused on your goal.
Before the meeting, prepare a list of questions that you need to be answered. Even if all of them are not applicable, they may lead to something valuable.
3Weigh the decision against the alternative
The alternative of making the decision is not making the decision. This is where regret and intuition come into play.
First, think about how you will feel if you do not take action. Envision yourself in the future after the decision has been made or not made. Imagine the feelings associated with the decision. Then, listen to your intuition.
What does it tell you?
If you feel strongly that you would rather take action than regret not doing it, then take action. Even if the risk is great, remember that regret may be greater.
Trust yourself and think the times you’ve faced adversity. Know that you have come through those times and that you are ready to take risks again.
Being faced with difficult decisions is inevitable, just like risk is inevitable in life. However, not taking risks can lead to missed opportunities and that can fill your life with regrets. Struggling with decisions is okay but not trying to grow and develop ways to face them is unacceptable.
Sometimes, we just need to take a fresh look at the situation before we can learn how to become a better decision-maker. These tips can help you with that.