Why Knowing The Purpose of New Year’s Resolution Is Important
It’s that time to think about your New Year’s resolutions again.
Lose weight. Change jobs. Find your soulmate.
Whatever your resolution is, you have it for one reason. You think that you will be happier having attained that goal.
So, why do most people give up on those resolutions by February or March at the latest?
Other commitments, unexpected events, lack of time, and dwindling motivation are common excuses. Another reason is failure to know the purpose of New Year’s resolutions.
Happiness is somewhat of a red herring. First of all, many things can make you happy. Secondly, studies on happiness in a field known as positive psychology have found that people are often wrong about what they think makes them happy. Most importantly, recent research on meaning shows that happiness is an indicator of success, not necessarily the ultimate goal in life.
Add these together and new insight into why you’re not sticking to your resolutions emerges: it’s about purpose and not motivation (or lack thereof).
Look through your list of resolutions.
The truth is that if you wanted them badly enough, you would do them — but you often don’t. Other things aren’t more important. After all, your health is more important than just about anything.
So what is it?
If you focus on happiness and think that those resolutions will make you happy, you run into two roadblocks: other things that can make you happy and other things that mean more to you. It’s that simple.
Take the oft-cited “lose weight” resolution. People don’t go because they’d rather sit on the couch and watch TV. Others can’t fit it in between work and taking their kids to baseball practice. Not only that, but many people pick resolutions based on social desirability bias.
For example, they think they should want it or think that others will praise them for it. When you really scrutinize the reasons, you’ll notice that it’s more about meaning than it ever is about happiness.
Knowing this, stop working back from what you think will make you happy to what your New Year’s resolutions should be. Instead, ask yourself what would mean the most to you to achieve.
In this context, we’re defining meaning as having the most significance to you and giving you a feeling of purpose. If you tie exercise to being able to spend more time with your children in your old age, you’re definitely more likely to go. If you find more meaning in a new career path, you’ll definitely pursue it more than if you thought it was just a little less stressful than your current job at slightly lower pay.
Meaning will push you through the toughest times. It’s why people get up at 5 a.m. to go to a job they don’t like so their kids can stay fed and clothed. It’s why people work out hours per day training for their next competition despite it being a lot easier to sit at home and watch others do it on YouTube. They want to strive for success in the areas that matter to them. In those cases, it’s taking care of their family or being a great athlete.
So how do you identify the most meaningful New Year’s resolutions for you?
Identify Growth Areas that Matter to You
Forget about what other people think or what you think you should want for a moment. Where do you want to be better? What would success look like?
Identify and Schedule the Necessary Experiences
You have to find activities that will lead you to your goal so you can make progress.
Build Desire for Those Experiences
You have to want to have those experiences. If you don’t want the experiences, then you probably don’t really want the goal. People who like to be fit and actually are fit enjoy the exercise they do or they wouldn’t be able to sustain the motivation to do it.
Identify and Fortify Your Beliefs
Negative beliefs are the easiest way to squelch desire. If you can break through any beliefs holding you back, then it will get you past the excuses causing your resolutions to fizzle.
Use Your Emotions as Feedback
Just because happiness isn’t the goal doesn’t mean it isn’t useful. Happiness is feedback when you’re succeeding. If you’re not happy, then there is something wrong with your experiences, desires or beliefs. Figure out what it is and change it to see a change in your emotional state.
Do It the Right Way
Cheating or making a half-hearted effort sucks all the meaning out of what you are doing. Come up with the best approach and follow it.
Doing it alone without any help is a surefire way to find excuses and be helpless. Join a group with the same goal. Secure resources to help you and have temporary outlets that can allow you to relax and recover on your journey.
Make a Series of Small Choices in a Positive Direction
The worst thing about resolutions is that people decide to put a big goal on their list and then think that’s it. Success is a series of small choices made every day, not one big choice. Know the decisions you need to make in advance and rehearse them so you make the right ones when the time comes.
The above formula works for anything you do in life. However, New Year’s resolutions are the best examples of when people look for happiness when they really want to make sure that they’re progressing toward the meaningful existence that they seek.
Look for meaningful growth opportunities and you’re more likely to stick to those resolutions instead of putting them on your list next year.
For more guidance and a detailed explanation of why the above eight components are the essence of finding meaning and purpose — not just in your New Year’s resolutions but also in your life — check out The Meaning of Life: A Guide to Finding Your Life’s Purpose.
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Author: Nathanael Novosel
Nathanael Garrett Novosel is a professional researcher and advisor with over 20 years of experience studying individual and group behavior. Over that time, he has researched psychology, evolutionary biology, organizational best practices, leadership decision making, business, technology, finance, and philosophy to understand how the world as we know it works and why. Nathanael spent much of his career using the insights from this research to help the world’s leading executives solve their most pressi