Are you sick and bored of the nagging people in your life? Does it make you feel more and more annoyed?
Then, it’s the right time to make some lifestyle changes and bring peace to your life.
We all have some people or things in our lives that bug us insanely and we believe we can’t do anything about them.
But guess what?
You certainly can. These simple ways can help you in overcoming negativity and embracing a happy life.
Accept Things the Way They Are
Some people and situations never change no matter how much you try. Surely, there are a few instances and few people we just don’t want to give up on.
But, what if those people are the ones causing you unnecessary stress? Is it just for yourself to keep entertaining them?
Then, it is better to tell your concern to them straight. And if they don’t change after that, then it’s probably their nature. In this scenario, you have to make the hard call. Either accept them the way they are or learn to live without them.
Do Not Invest Too Much in Emotions
Being empathetic and caring is fine. However, it should not be at the cost of your mental well-being.
For instance, consider a colleague comes to you with a problem. You may offer to listen once, twice or even thrice. But what if it becomes more than usual? What if he pulls you out in the middle of work and starts yammering about his problems?
Will you be able to deal with the same story day after day?
If not, then set some boundaries from the beginning. That way, they will not become dependent on you and you will be able to help him happily.
Let Go of the Clutter
Have you ever cleared off your junkyard and felt immensely satisfied with doing so? Yes?
Well, there’s a reason behind it.
Whether old or new, the objects are surrounded by energy. And depending on the type of energy they carry, they may mentally, physically or emotionally block your path ahead.
When you hold onto unnecessary stuff, there is no place for new opportunities to knock on your door. So, why carry such baggage of negativity?
Dump it out of your life, be it from past break-ups or anything that remotely brings you discomfort.
Listen, Understand and Then Respond
A steamy hot reaction to someone’s comment may make any situation worse than it usually was. It may also lead to unnecessary tension, drama, and negative vibes between both parties.
In this case, all you need to do is keep calm. There might be times when you should speak for yourself but not always. Throwing back insults in response to negative attitude will not yield any benefit.
Besides, it will keep hanging on your head all day, which can amplify your irritation. Therefore, it is important to analyze the situation. Responding wisely will leave you feeling like you have handled things with poise and integrity.
Take a Break from Assumptions
“She is mad because I didn’t invite her to lunch. I think she is still upset with me. Was she laughing at me?”
Do these thoughts sound familiar?
Well, it’s because it is a human tendency to make assumptions without knowing the actual reason. You will constantly churn your brain over these small assumptions until the concerned person comes and talk to you. This is one kind of negativity we bring upon ourselves.
Certainly, negative people may behave irrationally sometimes. But should you be wasting your precious time and energy to make sense of their actions?
Still, if it bothers you that much, be upfront and ask them what the matter is. If you get a satisfactory reply, then good. If not, then let it pass. Don’t over think it.
Dwell in Positivity
What goes around comes around!
It is not only applicable to Karma but also to energy and vibes you are putting out. If you’re constantly engrossed in grief, complains or judging others, you may reap the same.
On the other hand, if you surround yourself with happy and joyous people, you will attract the same.
With any luck, your positive vibes will become nauseating to toxic people and they will slowly fall away from you naturally.
Love the ‘You’
You should be your first concern. No, we are not talking about being selfish.
Negative thoughts and people can keep you up at night questioning yourself, your looks or your behavior. For instance:
- Did I do the right thing?
- I don’t believe she said that about me.
- Am I nothing?
Thoughts like these can keep you distressing for days, weeks, months or even years. Sadly, some people take pleasure in others’ misery. And since you can’t control their degrading behavior, it’s important to take care of yourself. Besides, you should also prepare yourself to be centered in some instances. Live positively in the face of their pessimism when you must.
In the end, it all comes down to how you handle the situations and people. If you give in and feed on the negativity, it will grow and rip you. However, with little steps, you can start overcoming negativity and live peacefully.