Do you want to know how to live the life of your dreams?
One goal that nearly all people have in common is living a wonderful life. The word wonderful may be interpreted differently by each person, but still, it always has something to do with how you imagined you would live your life.
Unfortunately, only a few amongst us will actually live the life they wanted for themselves. It’s not that other people don’t want to live the life of their dreams badly enough. It’s just that they’re doing certain things that are holding them back in life.
First of all, you need to accept that your current situation isn’t the way you want to live the rest of your life. By doing this you’re making room for improvement. After you’ve done that, you can find out what is holding you back in life.
I’ve created a list where I identified the three things that were holding me back from living my life. By sharing this with you, I hope that it will save you a lot of time and that you can apply it directly to your life.
So lets find out if what’s holding you back from living the life of your dreams and how you can fix it.
1. Sitting on the couch
People will give you so many reasons about why they aren’t able to do something. Most of those reasons are just excuses. They excel in procrastination, which is arguably the biggest killer of your dreams. It lets you keep on thinking that you have enough time to do what you want do. Meanwhile the time ticks away and you’re still at the same place where you were 5 years ago..
These lazy procrastinating people are always complaining about what they could have been doing if they didn’t ‘suffer’ from x in life or if they didn’t lack x in life. You can’t complain and hoping things will get better.
What you need is a vision and motivation for your life, because at the end of the day, these people want to achieve their dreams too, but they just don’t know where and how to start.
Find out why you’re procrastinating and find out what really motivates you to take action. The best motivation to accomplish anything in life comes from the deep desires in your heart & mind.
When you know what you desire and you remind yourself everyday of it, your productivity and execution level will take on forms you’d never expect of yourself.
2. Overthinking about what others may think of you
One of the worst things you can do in life is trying to please everybody and to care about what everybody will think of you. Not only does it cause anxiety, but it also works like a paralyzer. You’ll feel scared to step out of your comfort zone, because you’ll fear to be scrutinized and judged by your family, friends or maybe even people you don’t know.
When you stop getting out of your comfort zone, not only will you deprive yourself of the opportunity to do new and exciting things, but you’re also letting them determine how you’ll live your life. There isn’t a particular key to living the life of your dreams. But, trying to please everyone is most definitely not one of them.
It’s normal to care about what others may think of you. I’m not telling you to shut it all out and to never ever listen to what someone else says about you. Listen to them and let them know that you accept their opinion for what it is.
However, don’t let the opinions of others influence the course of your life. Don’t stop doing something just because it’ll be frowned upon. As long as you’re not negatively affecting others, you should do things your own way according to your plan.
3. Focusing on the negative side of things
Most people have the awful tendency to always look at the downside of things. When a challenge comes up in their lives, the first thing they start to talk about is how difficult it is to overcome it and that they never faced something like this before in their lives.
Sometimes, people even do something more unbelievable and manage to find the bad in something positive. They actually don’t realize how negative and pessimistic their attitudes towards life are.
The best way to overcome a negative attitude is to stop denying it and to accept the fact that you’re much more negative in life than you can realize. This may be difficult to accept because no one wants to be a negative person. However, the acceptance part is the most difficult and once you’ve done it successfully, you’ve opened the way to change.
The second part would be finding out why’re always so salty and acting like a ‘know it all’. For example, is it a defense mechanism against your own insecurities or do you like to be negative and if so, why? Asking yourself these questions will help you find out how you can change your perspective from a negative into a neutral one.
We often blame external things for the things that we lack in life. This is a big misconception in our society. We’re actually really fortunate with the fact thtat it isn’t usually external variables that prevent us from living the life of our dreams, but the internal things.
We can change our internal situation. We have the power to take control over our life and to shape our life in the ways that we want to create the life of our dreams. So quit looking for excuses and start looking for improvements.
What is holding you back from living the life of your dreams?
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Author: Krishan Kalpoe
Krishan Kalpoe is the founder of Shrinksdom who wants to share his knowledge about self-inprovement for the purpose of making people's lives better. Visit www.shrinksdom.com for more self-help advice