How to Embrace Losing and Find Out What Really Matters

By Lidiya K

February 11, 2015   •   Fact checked by Dumb Little Man


What’s wrong with being a loser? And aren’t we all?

After all, everything is temporary outside of us and eventually we’ll lose it.

Losing is basically having less, but you actually gain more freedom. The more you let go, the freer and happier you become.

Here are a few things about losing you should consider:

•It comes from attachment

– We get attached to so many things, people, places, activities, memories, etc. And the moment we do that we start paying too much attention to them, thinking they make us happier and life is unthinkable without them, that they give meaning to our days and we put all our energy and focus into that. And when we lose what we hold on to, the pain is indescribable.

•In the end we lose it all

– The material stuff we have becomes someone else’s belongings, our wealth goes somewhere else, someone else takes our position at work, and eventually we lose our life

•Letting go of attachment will prevent us from losing

– Reducing desires, realizing that we don’t need another person to feel complete and we ourselves are good enough and seeing objects just as temporary things we own, is what can save us from the devastation we feel when we lose something that’s important to us.

Practicing letting go of attachment will help you not to become a wreck when someone you love leaves you, you lose a relative, or money, or your job.

All this won’t make you stop enjoying life. No. You’ll be able to experience it even more, because you’ll be able to appreciate what really matters.

Seeing so many people that are in a desperate need of control, and are attached to their money, or luxurious possessions, or can’t live without their job, just makes me think of everything else we remain blind for.

Nothing’s wrong with being a loser, because that’s who we are in this life in the end. Throughout it we only play with stuff, money and people, but never really own something.

So that makes successful people – those who strive for winning each day of their journey – look stupid.

And behind all these things is what really matters – what will last forever and will always stay in the universe in the form of energy.
I’m talking about the love we’ve shared while being here, the compassion we’ve showed and what we’ve given so that others can have more.

These things are so powerful that, in my opinion, they become a part of the eternity. Because with every good deed, every time we’ve got over the basic human nature and have reached a state of enlightenment by letting go, simplifying and being mindful, we’ve created a strong force that goes beyond time and life as we know them.

The purpose of losing is to understand that we’re not in control. We may like that for some time, but if we don’t let go of the illusion and something happens connected with loss, we just can’t handle it. We think it’s our fault, when actually it’s just life.

But without losing, you’ll never realize that you can live without what you’ve lost and keep growing and find happiness again. You become aware of your strength and understand that things are temporary. That makes you appreciate them more.

Peace is in the imperfections around you. So let go of perfection and accept them as they are. Then let them be.
Embrace losing and appreciate what really matters.

Lidiya K

Lidiya K is a writer in the fields of self-improvement, life hacking, human potential and minimalism. She's the creator of Let's Reach Success

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