Ever wonder why some people are like magnets who attract everyone while the rest of us are swept under the carpet like insignificant dust particles? Oh, how we wish we were like those bright stars and mimic their way of being charismatic. Unfortunately, our personalities aren’t charismatic like theirs.
Well, that’s where the fallacy lies.
Charisma isn’t inborn. Instead, it’s a belief and learned art which you can master. Some of those mastered it early on such as Elon Musk, Audrey Hepburn, and Martin Luther King. Armed with this particular skill, this lot has won the hearts of millions.
Even a moderate level of charisma can enhance your aura and present you in a more dependable, loyal, and persuasive light.
So, here are a few actionable insights you could make use to start being charismatic.
1Make Your Presence Felt
Now that doesn’t mean you have to make noise and wear garish outfits in order to be ‘present’.
A presence is intangible. When a charismatic person enters a room, they send a frizzle of energy throughout.
Actually, this presence draws you towards it. You desperately wish to impress this person and hope you could become their pal.
To generate that presence, you have to develop an emotional connection with your recipients. Begin with a warm and genuine smile. Beware, a fake one is exposed for what it is.
Keep your mannerism, speech, tone, and body language as natural, relaxed, and open as possible. They signal people that you are open to building a relationship with them.
Give the other person your full attention. Don’t let your mind wander. Make them feel valuable and well-liked. Maintain eye contact, mimic their body language, and give them verbal and non-verbal cues that you are paying attention to what they are saying.
The most clichéd advice, nonetheless, it’s an essential and useful one. Since self-confidence and self-conviction are the only things that will get your through the most nerve-wracking experiences of your life.
No matter what anyone else says or when all the odds are against you, remain confident and self-assured that you are going to pull through. Of course, you are going to face setbacks, but it doesn’t mean you cannot persist.
Remain confident in everything you do. People will admire and respect your will and poise.
3Know the Art of Speaking
The most charismatic people know how to speak to a room full of people effortlessly. Speaking too much or too little is not recommended, either.
Avoid speaking as if you’re in a rush. Pace your words well, express your emotions with the right tone. Our tone conveys a myriad of emotions with the slightest dip. Use the subtleties of your tone to your advantage. Let your body language stay in sync with your tone. Also, input one or two-second pauses during crucial movements.
Moreover, never ever exaggerate your abilities or achievements. People can sense it right away or they can discover it eventually via other sources of information. Subsequently, it turns people off from you.
Instead, try being self-deprecating. You’ll come to see people admiring you even in your absence.
4Win Hearts With Your Listening Skills
Everyone loves to talk about themselves, particularly about their subjective experiences. In fact, research also shows that talking about oneself elicits a pleasurable sensation that is akin to acquiring food and money. Hence, when you make the other person feel good, they automatically like you.
So while it may be important to master your speech, it’s even more important that you encourage the other person to talk about themselves. Clamp down on your urge to express your opinion on everything.
Use the information they’re providing and give a compliment. Avoid highlighting their mistakes. Ask for clarification when you feel you require more details. Now, if you think a question isn’t appropriate, make an empathic statement such as “You’re upset because…” or “You do all that by yourself, I wonder how you manage it.”
Use your body language to give them cues that you’re interested in what they have to say. You may give an empathic head nod or a warm smile.
See Also: 7 Rules of Listening, Really Listening
So, go ahead and implement these actionable tips. You’ll see people drawn to you like a moth to a flame once you start being charismatic.