5 Reasons People Don’t Take You Seriously and How to Fix It


Ever wonder how some people manage to command a room simply by entering it? In contrast, do you sometimes feel like you get mowed down by other people’s big ideas, priorities and needs? Is it exceedingly difficult for you to get people to cooperate and follow your lead?

While some people seem blessed with strong character from birth, the rest of us flounder and stagnate, trying to learn to acquire a taste for shoe leather. Why is this?

It may be because people aren’t taking you seriously enough. And the reason is that, most likely, you don’t take yourself seriously enough.

How others see us begins with how we see ourselves. We project this self-perception into every action and every word we speak.

Here are five reasons people aren’t taking you seriously and how to fix it:

Not being true to your word

Do you make promises only to realize later that you can’t keep them? Do you excitedly tell your friends and family what you plan to do but then somehow it never seems to happen?

Set a new rule for yourself. Stop telling people what you’re going to do. Instead, tell them what you already did. Not only will this save you from future embarrassment but it will keep you motivated to accomplish what you set out to. People who get things done get taken more seriously. They’re also granted more responsibility.

Poor follow-through

Be honest here. Do you often start up new projects in your work and life, but find that they never get past the initial launch phase? It’s no wonder people are having trouble viewing you in a serious light.

What’s happening here is that there’s no follow-through and no goal setting system in place. You may think that only over-achieving nerds set goals. However, the only way things will get done is if you create a step-by-step plan and then follow through with that plan.

Not learning to separate work and play

Seems like everywhere we look, boundaries are being overstepped- employees cozying up to their bosses over drinks, business owners taking clients out for a round of golf and an earful about their dating life. It’s great to share personal interests and information with those in our professional circle. And yes, we all can relate to some level of dysfunction with our families and loved ones.

But the truth remains that the more people know about you, the less they’re able to see you in a professional light. Better to reserve the details of our private lives to trusted friends instead of coworkers and colleagues who might take us less seriously and pass us up for future opportunities because of it. 

Making excuses instead of making it happen

Think about all the time we waste telling people why we couldn’t accomplish what we said we’d do. Now, think about how much more productive you’d be if, instead of moaning and making excuses, you just went ahead and did it.

Making excuses is a procrastination art form. Next time you’re about to blame your inaction on someone or something else, ask yourself the following question:

  • Why am I playing an avoidance game?
  • What’s really preventing me from buckling down and just getting it done?
  • How much more seriously might people take me if I were more effective?
  • Who do I need to talk to to initiate this change in myself? 

Hanging with the wrong crowd

Sometimes, people don’t take us seriously when they see us hanging around with people who are too casual or flippant about life. It’s true; as much as we want to believe that “we’re all adults here,” not everyone practices healthy living habits or behaves in a responsible manner.

Look around at the people who you spend time with. Are they of sound moral fiber and solid constitution? Or are you secretly embarrassed by their behavior and questioning of their decisions a lot of the time?

Sometimes, it can be tough to break away from people who don’t enhance our lives or embrace the same values as we do. But remember that there is a world full of people out there. If you’re serious about being taken seriously, find a new friend or group of friends who can help you move toward this goal.

Have you or your ideas been brushed off? Why did it happen and what did you do to get heard?

Written by David B. Bohl, the author of Slow Down Fast.

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  1. My ideas have been brushed off frequently for a variety of reasons, agendas, fear, going against the grain, mad etc. What did I do to get heard ………. I stopped trying to get heard and surrendered to not being heard, then I was heard.

  2. I've got one that doesn't quite fit into what you've written so far…being a young female in a male dominated field such as engineering. I've had people look past me and direct questions to my coworker, just because he's a man that's nearly twice my age. Even though I have a higher position which requires more schooling and obtaining professional licensing.

    The only thing I can think of to get people in the workplace to take me more seriously is to spend a couple of thousand dollars buying formal business wear, to contrast more against the casual business attire that is the norm in my office. Though playing the part of corporate barbie to get people to listen to me doesn't appeal much. Anyone else have some ideas that don't include buying a new wardrobe?

  3. I'm a female and I've worked in corporate too. Experience in a certain workplace sometimes trumps "degrees". Yes you memorized information from a book and received a certificate to commemorate your achievement but the other guy may have been there longer and he may know answers to tricky work questions. It's just like in a hotel, you have someone who is manager because of a hospitality degree but there might be someone who is an assistant manager who worked there from janitor up. He might be able to offer something too because he knows or has seen what has been done by employees. You're both valuable but you might have to earn your stripes by learning as much as you can about the business.


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