22 Secrets to Discovering Your Dream and Living It
One of the most important rules of happiness in life is to do what you love. You’ve probably heard that advice a lot of times already. Unfortunately, discovering that dream job and what you are meant to do in life isn’t always so easy.
Take a look at the happiest, most successful people on this planet. They are all doing something they love, creating something they believe in, and living a life of purpose and passion. Do that and it doesn’t matter how much money you make.
But what do you do if you don’t know what you want to do? If you don’t know what your dream is?
This is a common problem and many people wander through much of their lives without discovering their passion. They go from one job to another, unfulfilled and miserable.
While you don’t need to do every step below, they are all ways for you to spend time thinking about your passion in life, your dreams, and how to accomplish them.
The first step is to ask yourself these questions:
What are your hobbies?
This doesn’t just mean stamp collecting. It means anything you do with your spare time. That could be collecting comic books, reading about history, programming Linux utilities, writing on your blog, writing poetry, cooking or anything that interests you. As it’s clear that this is how you like to spend your time and that you’re willing to do those things without pay, it’s very possible that these are your passions. Give each of your hobbies some thought. Think about whether they’re things you love to do, and that you’d love to do for a living.
What are your talents?
It’s been said that we each have at least one gift we’ve been given and that the true purpose of our lives is discovering that gift and sharing it with the world. There is much truth in that statement and an important part of this process is discovering your gift. What are you good at? What talents do you have? And what have you shown an aptitude for in your current and previous jobs, in school, in your personal life? Anything goes here.
Who do you like to work with?
A dream job includes not only what you want to do, but who you are doing it with. You should truly enjoy working with these people. In this step, you can name specific people you love working with or types of people (creative types, programmers, entrepreneurs, blue collar, etc.). Use your ideas to help you envision your dream job (more on that below).
What do you like to work with?
The tools of the job are very important. If you love working with computers, that’s a clue to your dream job. If you love working with clay, paper, people or clothes, that’s a clue. Or if you like working with a hammer or a piano, consider that you’re off to a great start in discovering your dream.
What environment do you enjoy working in?
An office, a classroom, a construction site, the ocean, the forest? Where you work is also an important factor in your dream job.
When have you been happiest?
Think back throughout all the previous times of your life, from childhood through adolescence, school, jobs, and hobbies. Think about the happiest times of your life and what you were doing, who you were doing it with, and where you were doing it. You may have dismissed some of these things for various reasons, but remembering that you were extremely happy during those times can make you realize why you were happy.
Try online tools
There are some great tools online for helping you find your purpose. Here are just a few of my favorites:
- 43 Things: This is a great way to see what goals others have, to list your own goals, to talk to others about common goals, and to get ideas and inspiration. Also, see their article, How to Choose Achievable Goals.
- One Question: Take a test with questions to figure out your one purpose in life. With articles to help as well.
List your top 5 passions
Now that you’ve given various factors some thought and tried some online tools, make a short list of your top 5 passions. If you don’t have 5, list as many as you have. Then, compare your top 5 passions and rank them from top to bottom. This will be your guide to making your dream a reality.
How can you turn your passions into your work?
Of the top 2 to 3 passions on your short list, can any of them be turned into your life’s work? What professions use those passions as a mainstay of their work? How would you get into those professions and do you think you would love what you do if you did them?
Create a clear vision
Clarity of vision is the key to achieving your dream once you’ve discovered it. Take some time to think about the following:
- What your dream is
- What your dream job would be
- How you see yourself doing it
- Where you are
- What you’re surrounded by
- Who you’re working with
- What tools you’re using
- The benefits to you and others.
Write your answers down and try to make it as clear as possible. You should be able to visualize your dream in your head. The more real it seems in your mind, the more likely it is that it will become reality.
Create a road map
Once you’ve clearly pictured your destination, what’s left is creating a map for getting to that destination. Try backwards planning: what’s the last step you’d have to do before attaining your goal? What would the last step be before that step? Keep going backwards until you get to the first step. Then focus all your efforts on that first step.
Sometimes, there are more than one road to get to a destination. Brainstorm a bunch of ideas for getting there as well as actions you can take to move yourself closer to your destination. Then, put them together into your road map. Even if you don’t have a complete road map, having a clearly defined destination and taking the first step are enough to get you started.
Learn as much as you can about your dream. Check out some books from the library, do some web surfing, and talk to others who are knowledgeable. Become an expert on the topic.
Find a real life mentor
Find others who are living your dream. Read about them, write to them or meet with them. Find out what steps they took to get there, what’s required, and how they did it. Then, use that information for your road map.
While you’re taking your steps to realizing your dream, practice your passion as much as possible. Practice, of course, makes perfect. You want to be as good at what you want to do as humanly possible. This isn’t an easy step, but it’s worth it.
Find others who are trying to achieve the same dream, see what obstacles they’ve faced, and how they’ve overcome them. Put up photos from magazines to inspire you. Read motivational quotes. If you’re inspired, you will have the energy needed to get there.
Along those lines, find motivation to keep you on your path. Motivation and focus are the keys to achieving any goal. What are your motivations? Making a public commitment, setting up rewards, inspiring yourself, tracking your progress, and joining a support group or finding a partner are great ways to motivate yourself.
Simplify: one purpose
Once you’ve defined your dream, focus on it completely. That means you need to put any other goals on the back burner for now. Have only one purpose in your life. Later, you can focus on other goals. However, if you have multiple goals, you will become distracted and you’ll lose purpose. Focus. Simplify your life so that you are keeping your focus on that one thing.
Use a mantra
A great way to keep yourself focused is to use Guy Kawasaki’s idea of creating a mantra instead of a mission statement. Boil your goal down to a few words.
Guys’ mantra: empower entrepreneurs.
What’s yours? Once you’ve defined your mantra, print it out, post it up, and say it several times a day.
Set aside time each day
You will not go anywhere if you don’t devote time to your dream. Set aside an hour (or at least 30 minutes) each day for working towards your dream. If you can do more, do it. However, one step at a time can also work. Set aside time either in the morning or in the evening. Make it a habit and you will succeed.
Pretend you can’t fail
Imagine that you cannot fail, that you may slip up and fall, but that you will get up and learn from that fall. Take away all fear of risk and loss and believe in your success. Now, act as if you cannot fail. And by acting so, you will make it happen.
Live as you want to be remembered
How do you want to be remembered when you die?
This is a common method for deciding how to live your life. If you want to remembered for realizing your dream, then don’t start on it when it’s too late. Start on it now. Live your life so that your dream actually comes true.