When was the last time someone said that you were too positive? Never. The reason is that we can’t be.
The key to success in anyone’s life is how happy we are. We may be the wealthiest person on our street, but if we’re miserable, we are far from successful.
The problem most of us face is getting caught up in the daily grind of life and becoming worn out, overworked, and over caffeinated stress cases.
Of course with all of life’s little (and big) stresses comes the tendency to blame, criticize, and generally take a negative outlook on life.
Attitude is a decision. Positive or negative
Everything that happens in our lives is just a series of events. It’s how we react to these events that shape how our lives turn out. We can choose to react positively or negatively to anything that happens to us.
Think about the following example:
We’re driving down the highway when we notice a car tailgating us. As we speed up, they speed up as well. Now most of us get angry and belligerent when this happens and will probably use a certain hand gesture when they eventually pass us.
This will usually put us in a sour mood and we might even let this episode ruin our entire day.
Being tailgated is not a positive event in and of itself but if we choose to look at it from a different viewpoint, it can be.
What if we instead chose to believe that the person tailgating us had a pregnant woman in it who was about to give birth and needed to get to the hospital as soon as humanly possible? Or what if it was a father of a 6 year old girl who was rushing to see her because she had a tragic accident at school?
Would we still be upset at them? I think not. Instead we would get out of their way as quickly as possible and be glad to do it.
This mentality can be used for virtually any event in our lives. Think about the power behind this for a moment.
We can literally change our outlook on life by choosing to view things in a positive light. And do you think this will lead to us being happier? Of course.
But getting to the point where we can shift our mindset from negative emotions like fear, anger, and frustration to positive ones like forgiveness and empathy takes time and takes work.
But it can be done through changing our habits.
5 Daily Habits That Can Make Us More Positive and Happy People
1) Reduce negativity. This is much easier said than done because negativity is literally everywhere. The evening news, reality T.V. shows, violent movies, aggressive drivers, coworkers complaining, listening to people waiting in line at Walmart..
The list goes on and on.
So how do we reduce these things which are a large part of most people’s lives? Simple. Take a break from them.
Each day, we simply remove one negative influence from our daily routine.
Turn off the T.V. early, avoid talking to your friend who only wants to complain about their spouse, or walk to the store instead of driving.
2) Give unconditionally. This can be one of the most powerful and emotionally uplifting things one person can do for another.
Consider the following actions: Giving a homeless man our last $10 dollars because he needs it more than we do, letting a person cut in front of us in line at the supermarket because they are clearly having a rough day, or carrying an elderly person’s bags to their car because we see them struggling are all examples of unconditional giving.
We should ask ourselves to give this way at least once each day and no doubt we will find our lives improving dramatically.
3) Exercise. As much as we hear it already, exercise, particularly vigorous exercise, really is a cure all. Getting those muscles pumping and oxygen working through the body does wonders for our emotional and physical health.
If we aren’t exercising right now, we need to start. Exercise can be in the form of walking, jogging, cross training, or playing tennis. The key is to start moving your body.
We will feel better and look better and when those things happen, we will feel more confident, positive, and happy. That’s just a plain and simple fact.
4) Talk to strangers. Many of us walk around leery of other people. We form snap judgments about them and tend to avoid direct eye contact and/or conversation. Why? Because our negative society has taught us not to trust people.
But the reality is that 99% of the people we see every day are good, decent people.
So the next time we’re on an elevator with a stranger, let’s say hello and ask them how they are. And do it sincerely.
When we’re waiting in line at the grocery store, we can strike up a conversation with the person behind us.
We will be amazed at how our whole being changes when we do this.
There is opportunity for this everywhere and we won’t have to try hard to make this a daily habit.
5) Smile. This sounds very cliché, but it’s so true. Most of us find it hard to form a sincere smile upon making eye contact with someone. Maybe we give a quick nod or “hello”, but there is a great deal of power in offering a genuine smile.
We just may make someone’s day and will surely feel better ourselves as well. Making someone happier, even if it’s temporary, will have a profound effect on our own happiness.
Make it a point to do this with at least five people each day.
Simple Versus Easy Decisions
Choosing to be positive is a simple decision, but it’s not easy. Most of us have many bad habits that make it difficult to be positive during stressful or difficult times.
We must form new habits to break the old ones and the only way to do this is a step at a time.
Trying to drop all of our old habits at once is a recipe for failure. Instead, try adopting a new positive habit each week.
Eventually we will have many positive daily habits that will change the way we look at the world and will ultimately alter how happy we are.
|Written on 2/28/2014 by Steve Roy. Steve is a contributing writer for DevelopGoodHabits.com, a site dedicated to helping you eliminate bad habits, creating better ones and making major life changes. To learn more, check out the free report 77 Good Habits to Live a Better Life.|
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