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What A Man Can Expect When Expecting Counseling

Men are often on the other side of my office door, pacing in the waiting room as I prepare for our first session of psychological counseling. Many of my male patients are nervous the first time we meet and have never reached out for mental health therapy before. Some worry that asking for help is a sign of defeat. Some can’t decide what to talk about in our first session, which can be scary for them. I take a moment to breathe and prepare myself before opening my door for the first time to meet someone new. As a private practitioner for over 15 years working in Red Bank, NJ with my brethren is my wheelhouse. It’s unusual to find a psychologist who specializes in […]

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4 Truths About Worry

Worry is such a bain to many people’s existence and it is a sly foe that likes to creep up on you and whisper less than pleasant thoughts into your ears trying to hypnotise you into mediocrity. You can sometimes tell yourself over and over to stop worrying but you just can’t stop and then you start worrying about the fact you are worrying so much and it is not good for your health. Bastard got me again. Mark Twain summed worry up perfectly when he said this: “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” More often than not, our worries are just us lying to ourselves and they never come true, yet we die a thousand deaths […]

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Perceiving a Better Future

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. – Wayne Dyer A poll after the first televised debate between two presidential candidates in 1960 had some interesting results. Those who watched it on TV tended to think that John F. Kennedy was the winner, while most of those who listened on the radio believed Richard Nixon had won hands down. The discrepancy seemed to be the result of optics versus substance – or perhaps the optics enhanced the substance to give a clearer view of leadership. However you slice it, a small shift in one’s point of reference can make all the difference in the world. It is our perception of the challenges we face and the hardships […]

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HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE WITH FAITH, OPTIMISM, POSITIVE THINKING AND SELF-SUGGESTION

I do not think that if you repeat a thousand times a day: “I am tall,” you will grow by the power of self-suggestion. Nor do I believe to repeat: “I am rich”, will miraculously turns it into a rich person for the night. But many people believe that. The other day I entered the house of a girl and her walls were written the words: “I have a rich husband,” like the Bart Simpson paying a penalty. Positive thinking and self-suggestion are the same thing? The owner of a restaurant where I worked in a Mother’s Day eve, appeared with raw material to make a thousand lunches. I thought, “He’s optimistic.” The restaurant owner justified the attitude: “Be positive thinking that tomorrow will sell […]

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5 Ways to Make a Workout Schedule that WORKS

Starting a workout routine can be a hassle for a lot of reasons, for those of us that enjoy working out you’ll be pleased to know that working out has never been easier but for the REST of us there are a lot of “hurdles” that come with starting a workout routine and MAKING it work. I think this is something that’s been true of working out for many decades but one thing that I can tell you right now is that majority of people working out FAIL because they’re probably not following these five tips I’m about to share with you. This is because without this “lens” to view your workouts and diet you’re just not going to get the type of traction that […]

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6 Ways to Find Your Calling

Ah, to find your life’s calling. It might be big, it might be small, but it will definitely be meaningful. It might be something you do for a living, or it might be something you do on the side, but it will definitely be fulfilling. Without further ado, let’s jump right in to the 6 techniques you can try right now that will help you find your calling in life! #1: Your Rant What topic can you really rant about? What gets your blood boiling and your voice fierce? Think of as many topics as you can that you’re passionate about. Write them down. Then rant! Stand up, alone or with a supportive friend to cheer you on, and get your rant on! When you […]

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5 Ways to Manage Your Emotional Health Like Your Financial Health

All too often our finances get most of the attention, and our emotional health gets put on the shelf to be visited another day. But the truth is, gaining financial health means nothing, if we can’t enjoy it once we get there. But how do we manage our emotions? I mean, with finances everything is laid out logically, but with emotions, the spectrum is overwhelming. The great news is, emotional health has a lot of similarities to financial health, so if you can do one, you should be able to do the other. Here are 5 similarities that will help you manage your emotions as well as your money: Live within your means With all that requires your attention out there, it’s easy to become […]

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5 Ways To Keep a Conversation From Coming To a Dead-end Standstill

You’re nodding along as the other person talks to you about something. She might be an acquaintance you bumped into, or someone you’ve met for the first time. And as the other person finishes talking, she waits for you to say something. Then, it happens. The deadly, awkward silence. It reminds us that we’re not very comfortable with the other person we’re chatting to (at least not yet), and can sometimes leave us with a dreadful feeling that we’re not as socially smooth as we ought to be. All is not lost, though. There’s this woman I know. Whenever she laughs, it seems to light up the room. Everyone flocks around and listens to her whenever she has something to say. With such superpowers, it […]

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Little Known Ways of Being Productive

I still remember one of the first days after starting at University. Sitting at the back row of the auditorium, shooting the shit with the others, hot girls with short skirts, no worries what so ever. It was all good and terrific for a young man growing up in a village of 200 inhabitants. Coming straight from high school and somewhat still being breastfed from home we thought going to an University was like a morning breeze and was all about socializing. Little did we know. The first assignment we got that day from the professor was to make an presentation that was to be held that same day. Seems minor now and probably to you too, but for three young guys where I at […]

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35 Reasons Why You’re Succeeding At Life (Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It)

In order to measure how successful we have been so far in life, we need to look at the little things instead of focusing on the big things such as being millionaires or having a fancy car. Feel like you haven’t succeeded at all? Here are 35 reasons that you are actually succeeding, even if you don’t feel like it: 1. Your relationships are not as dramatic or complicated as they used to be. Your relationships have become far easier for you as compared to previously. There are no unnecessary fights or arguments. 2. You confidentially ask for help and support when needed. You know how important it is to ask for support and help because one person alone cannot achieve everything. Therefore, you ask […]

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