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10 First Date Tips for the Modern Gentleman

Courting a lady isn’t as straight forward as it used to be. Back in the day, dating etiquette was well-established and everybody played by the same rules. Men would open doors for women, help them with their coats, and have them home by nine. Couples would go to the soda shop for the first date, to the drive in for the second, up to “old make out point” for the third, and would most likely be getting married on the fourth.     The rules of the road have changed. Somewhere between Say Anything, and MTV’s Next bus, we throw out the rulebook completely and just started winging it. Our individual quests for love and sex have become as varied and strange as life itself. […]

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10 Keys To Becoming a Better Communicator

A few weeks ago, I met up with an acquaintance, B, for lunch. Throughout the lunch, I couldn’t help but feel there was some sort of communication breakdown. He would cut me off even though I was still talking. He kept offering unwanted advice and opinions, even though I was not asking for help. It became quite frustrating just 15 minutes into the conversation. After 30 minutes, I stopped sharing and nodded away to everything he said. After the meet-up, I reflected over the situation. It was clear that there were fundamental problems in the communication. For one, there was a lack of active listening on B’s part. He didn’t sense I wasn’t asking for his opinions and kept pushing his way through even when […]

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10 Ways To Earn the Respect of Others

Have you ever met someone who was rude to you and didn’t hold you with much regard? How did you feel? Did you feel annoyed? Peeved? If you are a self respecting individual, chances are you want others to treat you with respect. And you know what, age isn’t a prerequisite nor is it a magic key to gaining respect. I’ve seen plenty of people who are young be highly respected from their elders. I’ve also come across older people who I’d never respect because their actions are so out of line. It’s about how you conduct yourself, your attitudes towards others and your actions. Regardless of whether you are a teenager, a student, a new member in your team/company, or someone starting out in […]

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10 Ways To Fight Holiday Depression

Christmas is supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year,” but for some of us, it’s the most depressing. If you’re eight years old and dreaming of all the great gifts Santa will leave for you on Christmas morning, you’re all aquiver with anticipation. If you’re a parent who’s been laid off at work and can barely pay this month’s rent, much less buy presents, the holiday may look pretty bleak. It’s easy to feel stressed out and overwhelmed by the demands of the holiday season, so it’s no wonder that some of us suffer from crippling depression during this time of the year. Here are a few ways to fight off the holiday blues. Have realistic expectations.Many of us are tempted to […]

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10 Ways To Make Yourself (And Everyone Around You) Miserable

(And don’t tell me you don’t want to be miserable. I’m pretty sure you’re already doing at least a few of the things on this list…) Turn Molehills Into Mountains When your printer jams, it’s not just annoying, it’s a disaster. When your car develops an odd rattle, it’s not just normal wear and tear, it’s clearly going to cost a fortune to fix. When your son swears at you, it’s not just a bit of acting out, it’s the first sign of junior delinquency. However small your problem, magnify it until it becomes overwhelming. You can only be properly miserable when you have huge problems. Dwell On It Now that you’ve got a big problem, make sure you dwell on it. Let it fill […]

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10 Ways to Say “I Love You” (Without Speaking A Word)

It’s unfortunately very easy to get so caught up in life and routine that you forget to show affection to those most important to you. This trend starts honestly enough but quickly you realize that years have gone by. If your relationship has become stale or if you tend to take your friends for granted, here are some ways to show your love for those around you. As you consider these, some of you may find that the time is not the issue; it’s the technique and act of verbalizing your feelings. Therefore, go in knowing that you can accomplish these without saying a word. As most of us know, actions can speak louder than words… Leave Notes (in Unusual Places) Perhaps life has become […]

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10 Ways to Stop All That Drama in Your Life

1. Choose – Diplomacy or Silence?  As you grow up you realize that being honest and straightforward doesn’t mean you blurt out everything that comes into your mind. You have two choices, either you learn to be diplomatic or if that route is too political for you, then learn to keep quiet! If you choose neither then you will only create trouble for yourself. 2. Do not give advice unless asked for While we can never watch our near and dear ones suffer.  Unless you are a parent you better keep your opinions to yourself. No one likes to hear how he or she should lead his or her life. Plus, the advice would always be better received when the other person is open and […]

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14 Ways to Expand Your Influence

Before we try to expand it, we need to first define it. What is influence? What does it mean to you? says influence is: (Noun) The capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions, etc., of others. (Verb) To move or impel (a person) to some action. Bestselling author John Maxwell says, “Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less.” If Leadership is influence then the reverse must also be true, influence is leadership. Or is it? I’d add influence is only leadership when that influence is leading someone towards a positive destination or outcome. After all, influence can go two ways. It can be positive or it can be negative. It […]

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3 Little Phrases That Will Change Your Life

Perception is everything. Some of us see our glasses as half full, some as half empty. Some of us wonder if it’s the right glass, or if the stuff inside is fit for drinking. No matter where we stand, there can be little doubt that the way we see the world shapes our experience of the world. And that’s great news, because it means that instead of trying to change or control the world – a monumentally difficult task, we can change the way we perceive it to improve the quality of our experience. One way we can do this is by changing the things we say when we talk to ourselves. There are millions of possible affirmations and hundreds of books on the topic, […]

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3 Proven Ways To Tell You’re Being Lied To

Have you ever listened to someone speak and you secretly wondered if they were really telling you the truth? Or maybe you recently listened to someone as that person told you a story…but the story seemed to have logical gaps… it just didn’t make all that much sense? While we may like to think otherwise, the truth is that people lie to each other all the time. The question is: Why? Well, most people don’t do it to be mean. Most people simply choose to lie when they think that telling the truth will harm them in some way, or harm the person they’re lying to. We see this on television and in movies all the time. We almost sit there cringing, wishing that the characters / […]

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