Are You Too Complacent In A Relationship?
Remember the first day you went out on a date? You probably felt excited, anxious, and happy all at the same time. You really wanted to make a nice and positive impressive.
Now, let’s be real.
After a few years in a relationship, we become so comfortable with one another that a lot of those little details don’t happen anymore.
Becoming complacent in a relationship is a double-edged sword. It shows that the love is unconditional and that our partner accepts us for who we are, good things and bad.
The problem, however, is that you no longer put the effort you were giving before. When we start acting as though those details don’t matter anymore, a lot of things in the relationship change.
Now, if you are starting to worry about being complacent in a relationship, check these signs below.
You no longer hide the array of sounds (and smells) that your body produces
You may be thrilled that your relationship is close enough that you no longer have to leave the room every time you let out a bit of air. Unfortunately, your partner may not share your enthusiasm. Consider it something to keep to yourself and take it somewhere else whenever possible.
You have lost interest in personal grooming
It isn’t necessary to slap on some aftershave each time you walk past the mirror. In fact, it would probably be an overkill.
You should, however, make it a point to shower daily and brush your teeth regularly. Yes, your partner may love you no matter what but you shouldn’t make her work to remind herself why.
You mumble some version of “love you babe” frequently and without eye contact
Remember when you first told her you love her? You probably looked into her eyes when you said those words. You definitely felt their meaning.
If “I love you” has morphed almost exclusively into “love you babe” or some version of that, you probably have forgotten what those words are supposed to convey. It’s time to remember and make a change.
You think “dates” are no longer needed
Believe it or not, dates are still necessary. What brought you together as a couple and helped you gain the comfort and closeness you now have was developed through dating.
Just because you are a few years into things doesn’t mean you should stop putting effort. People (yes, even your partner) change and grow continually. If you don’t spend enough time to enjoy each other’s company, you’ll eventually grow apart.
Closeness is a moving target. You can’t stop working on it just because you think you have it.
Sex has become like a well-loved recipe
If your intimate life has a set routine and you could and possibly have done it in your sleep, you are probably too comfortable. Just because you achieve a successful…ahem…end result does not mean you have had a successful experience. Sex is far more enjoyable when there are a few new moves here and there. So, throw out the recipe and try exploring a bit. You might find yourself surprised by the result.
There is a difference between trusting someone so much that you can be completely comfortable in their presence and being so comfortable that you seem not to care. That difference can be a very fine line.
If several or all of the above points ring a bell, you have probably crossed that line. Try changing things up and you’ll be pleasantly surprised by your partner’s reaction and what you get in return.