But why does that matter? Surely, if you’re in a loving relationship, you’re supposed to become dependent. That just shows how strong you are as a couple and that you’ve become an indomitable unit ready to face the world. However, all too often, this means that you lose something of yourself, of the person you were before. Whether that’s a hobby you used to be dedicated to or just the simple pleasure of solitude, in order for a relationship to be sustainable, both parties need to be at peace in their own company.