American lyricist Eubie Blake once said, “I don't have any bad habits. They might be bad habits for other people, but they're all right for me.” That's an attitude that might make you feel more relaxed, but it's not an attitude that will help you make the most of your personal and professional opportunities.
The first thing you need to do to take conscious control and target your bad habits is to acknowledge their harmfulness. Believing there’s nothing you can do to fix them only postpones the damage these bad habits do to you.
What I mean is, in terms of weight loss or gain, do you take the position that it doesn't matter where those calories come from? It would produce the same result anyway? Well, let's look at the fundamental truth here - the first law of thermodynamics.
The first law of thermodynamics states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed. Calories are simply a measure of energy. They therefore cannot be created, nor can they disappear. So if you eat something, you either burn it or you store it, right?
I really wish things would change - I want to be happier – I’ve had enough!
We all long to feel happy and can feel that something is just not working in our lives and that it isn’t right for us anymore.
We usually know what would make us feel happier, even if we have a tendency to lie to ourselves; out of fear and the guilt of being selfish. We try to ignore it, or pretend that we don’t know to delay the truth, until we just can’t take it anymore…
Change is scary…
It is a step into the unknown, which can go hand in hand with the fear that we might hurt someone else if we think about ourselves - and “what if I fail and it wasn’t worth it!”
So we self-sacrifice and use up the one commodity that it totally precious and irreplaceable - time, because we are afraid.
Books like The Da Vinci Curse by Leonardo Lospennato do a good job of summing up a problem of our
time: that anyone striving to be a universal genius will inevitably fail.
Because today, unlike in Da Vinci’s
time, there’s so much competition out there in every field that only people who devote themselves to
one subject are successful. Anyone who wants to be a professional high flyer, the “Father of the Year,” a
star violinist, a globetrotter and an art connoisseur all at once should either rethink his priorities or feel
satisfied about being incredibly mediocre in each of these fields. After all, it’s rare for a genius to be an
Not exactly for every entrepreneur, but definitely for some. The thought of sitting at your computer to put word after word down onto a blank page is sometimes nerve-racking. You know you need to do this, but the question is “how?” and probably, “why?”
You’re probably an entrepreneur with the desire to have online clients running after you. But for some reason, things are just not going as planned. You’ve gone for all the networking events, both offline and online. You’re also active on social networks. In fact, you’re so active that your Facebook profile drives more traffic than Google. But all you’re getting is engagement, not clients. And this is not what you want.
Your business can only move forward and survive in this information age when you have clients and make profit. This can only happen when you do one thing.
Wouldn’t it be great if we could get fit and healthy in just four minutes a day?
You may be thinking that this sounds a little too good to be true.
But, contrary to conventional wisdom, the best way to increase fitness and even burn fat is not through performing endless hours of drawn-out cardio exercise.
In fact, if you really want to get a better body, then very short intense workouts are actually the way to go, and as little as four minutes a day could well be enough to give you the results you’re after. This could be great news for the millions of us out there who lead busy lives and find it difficult to fit structured exercise into our daily schedule.
Not many people who were alive during the Big Depression of the 20th century are still around today, but if they were it would be nice to learn from them about what they went through in the 1920s and '30s.
Today's world is a lot different, though. Unlike then, not as many people are farmers, keep animals, or know how to grow their own food. Now, most people rely on the grocery store down the street to survive.
If America - and the world - is headed toward a massive depression, the situation is going to be even more bleak because of the fact people can't take care of themselves anymore. And when people can't eat, they're going to get antsy and the chances of rioting, looting and anarchy increase. This is why a lot of people are seriously asking questions about the state of the stock market in the United States in late 2013 and beyond.
It can be hard to get excited about managing your money when you can’t match your spending to your desired lifestyle.
Before you start making your financial goals, it makes sense to first sit down and think about what lifestyle you want to achieve. That way, all of your financial efforts will be aimed at achieving the life you actually want to live.
It’s much easier to stick with your financial goals -- and make the right goals for you -- when you are working with a purpose.
Having a positive outlook on life has many benefits, both to your mood and your physical health. Personality traits like optimism or pessimism can have an effect on your overall well-being, so it’s important to cultivate a positive frame of mind. Health benefits of optimism and positive thinking include greater resistance to colds, increased life span, reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease and better coping skills during periods of stress.
Positive people tend to live healthier lifestyles, getting more exercise, eating healthier diets and avoiding excessive use of alcohol. They also enjoy better psychological well-being and suffer less depression. We can’t feel good all the time but there are ways to encourage positive feelings and overcome negative ones.
Many people assume inspiration and motivation to mean the same thing.
They're so different, however, that I only believe in seeking one of them, and it's inspiration.
Why Getting Motivated Is An Unreliable And Frustrating Strategy
Getting motivated is such a backwards practice. Many don't realize this, but it often involves using your willpower to force or convince yourself to feel like doing something; it's an ironic brute force objective that states, "I'm going to want to do this whether I want to or not." Getting motivated is a struggle to change your inner feelings.
In theory we all want to be better; better friends, better spouses, better people, whatever.
But getting there is easier said than done.
When you think about becoming better do you picture becoming someone else? Someone you admire?
If so, you are looking at it all wrong.
In order to become better you need to focus on being a better you, not changing yourself into another person.
That just won’t work. You are unique, one of a kind, and priceless. However we can all use improvement. Don’t focus on becoming perfect or rich or famous. Even if you could it wouldn’t make you a better you. What are some realistic steps you can take to be a better you? Try these fourteen:
Social media is a game-changer in many ways. It’s hard to imagine how we ever kept in touch with distant friends and family before Facebook, LinkedIn and all the other social networks came along.
Today, you can update your entire network on how you’re doing with the click of a button or the upload of a photo.
That’s good news - as long as you aren’t one of those types prone to drinking and posting. Drunk dialing looks pretty tame by comparison to pissing off your entire social network all at once.
With social media, it’s easy to be able to maintain a relationship with distant friends and family. But it also can be quite useful, because a large personal network can be incredibly valuable when it comes to looking for a job, getting clients or customers, or even getting feedback from the crowd.
Does your life ever seem like a trap you can't escape because you have failed too much in all important areas of your life?
I empathize, because I have been there a few times (read: unemployed, broke, lonely, depressed).
I want to share with you three habits that will turn your life around and free you from your trap - if your take them up.
It worked for me and many others, so give it a try.
The three habits are not solutions to specific problems, but rather something you can do to master any tough spot and create well-being for yourself so you can lead your life towards success. (Success results from well-being more so than the other way around).
Sitting next to her in precalculus class, I was very nervous. I had never asked a girl out before.
As I forced myself to ask her if she'd "like to go bowling with me sometime," I spaced out mentally. Luckily, she said yes, which made me feel a strange mix of euphoria and nervousness, and I think I smiled and squeaked out a few words of approval. My mind was spinning with too many thoughts. Why? I really liked her and didn't want to look stupid, which increased my chances of looking stupid, because the pressure I placed on myself gave me difficulties with routine things like speaking and thinking clearly.
But when we watch movies, the hero always seems to know what to do and often does it with perfect, calm execution. We tend to glorify those who can withstand high pressure and perform well, whether on film or in real life. Perhaps it speaks to a common fear people share - ruining a golden opportunity with everyone watching. We all want to execute like clutch athletes in sports, suave romantics, and gifted public speakers.
How is it that some people do so well under pressure while others visibly shake?
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