7 Habits of Losers – Are Your Buddies Keeping You Back?
A billboard near my house reads, “Tell me the company you keep, and I’ll tell you what you are.” If you ponder, there’s a truth in this statement. A criminal seeks another criminal; a successful man seeks the company of another successful man.
I’m as good as the company I keep and I naturally gravitate towards Positivity by seeing half-full side of the glass; I believe in my own destiny. The man who waits for some seventh wave to toss him on the dry land not only drowns himself in the deep ocean but also drowns those who make an attempt to rescue him.
As an astute student of human behavior, I always look out for and stay away from a loser. You see, I have to protect my dreams, to protect my Positivity, and certainly protect my winning attitude.
Read on and think about who you surround yourself with. Do any of your close friends fit the mold?
“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” -Winston Churchill (1874-1965) British politician.
1. Sees a problem in every opportunity:
A loser is a poor judge of the choices he makes. He sees negativity in Positivity. He sees scares in abundance. He sees a problem in every opportunity. He’s a troll looking for failure as an outcome to justify his lack of action. He thinks others are lucky for their achievements to abscond with his inept to achieve anything of significance.
2. Passes the buck:
A loser is low on the fuel of self-esteem. He lacks confidence to achieve anything in life. He sees himself as a victim of the cruelty life inflicts on him. He feels that others are to blame for his failures as life is not fair to him.
3. Uses antagonistic phrases:
A loser lives the life of antagonism. He uses statements like, “It’s not my job,” or “I’m not responsible for that” to discern their negativity.
4. Cuts losses quickly:
A loser feels pride in making swift moves from a career to another career or from one business to another. He is deft at justifying another dream until a new whim arrives with a new dream. He wants to do lots of things but finds ways to rationalize doing nothing. His confidence in a career or business lasts until he finds another career or a business.
5. Hooked up on cable and lottery drug:
A loser squanders time by watching TV for more hours than engaging in meaningful action. He strives for instant gratification by following celebrities and playing lottery with the hope of striking rich overnight.
6. Seeks approval from others:
A loser tends to please others in everything he does. He refuses to think and act on his own behalf. He yields to others the ability to create his opinion of himself.
7. He doesn’t know what he wants from life:
A loser seeks approval from others rather than approval from his inner-self. He sees life from the lenses of instant gratification. His opinion about life swings faster than that of a politician. He truly never knows himself well to find a purpose.
A loser is a dream-buster armed with a weapon of negativity to squash your purpose. If you find one, beware. Report to us immediately and either correct their ways, correct the level of credence you place on their words, or distance yourself.
Your reward is waiting for you with a life of abundance.
-Shilpan
