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How to Become a Great Public Speaker (with No Stress)

We have all heard that famous statistic, the one that claims the number one fear people have is public speaking, number two is death. Seinfeld had a joke about this stat, he said apparently if people are at a funeral they would rather be in the coffin than be giving the eulogy. If that statistic is accepted as fact, Seinfeld’s joke, while ridiculous sounding, would be technically correct. What is wrong with this scenario?

Would people really rather be dead than speak in public? Why? Well I am here to tell you that speaking in public is nothing to be afraid of; I do it all the time. Like most things in life, the more you speak in public, the less nervous you become when you do it. Unfortunately, most people choose to avoid giving speeches so vehemently that they will never do it enough to become comfortable with it.

So for all of those people out there who avoid speaking in public like, well, death, I am here to tell you how to breeze through any public speaking engagement and come out the other end as a hit public speaker, with as little stress as possible.

Admitting that you are nervous also relieves tension within yourself. It allows you to get that obvious impediment out of the way from the start. You could also segue into our next point from admitting you are nervous, which is…

Once the joke is told and a laugh is shared between you and the audience, even more tension is released and your confidence will begin to build. You’ve already scored with your joke, so they are likely to enjoy the rest of your public talk.

By speaking to one person at a time you have neutralized the overwhelming fear of looking out at a see of faces that are trained on you and every word you say. When you narrow that crowd down to one person at a time, all of a sudden your public speaking becomes much more manageable.

Another reason to speak to one person at a time is to connect with the audience and knock your public speaking engagement out of the park. One of the keys to successful public speaking is connecting with the audience. When you make eye contact with individual audience members, you connect with them and make them feel like you are speaking directly to them. For that time period when you are speaking and making eye contact with that person, that is exactly what you are doing, talking to that one person individually.

Being honest is a method which allows your to be a more effective presenter. It also alleviates a lot of nerves that people artificially impose on themselves. If you are set to give a talk for work and think you need to know the answers to every single question each person asks in relation to your presentation, you are going to be much more stressed than if you just go into the situation knowing that you cannot possibly know every conceivable answer, and that is okay.

People understand that you are a human being, not a walking database for every possible scenario related to your topic. When you lift the burden of knowing everything off of yourself, you alleviate a huge stress burden from your public speaking baggage.

Written on 12/22/2008 by Mike S. Mike writes about personal development for intellectual thinkers at his website Photo Credit: sheilaellen
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