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7 Ways on How to Be More Positive In Life Despite Your Negative Past

Every day, I come across so many people who seem to have lost their spirit for the present and future. It breaks my heart to see people with so much potential choosing to give up due to their past experiences.

Whether it’s a family crisis, relationships or financial issues, problems that occur at an early age stick to a person’s mind like gum. I have noticed this in every age group- from terrified childhood to depressed teenage years and hopeless adult life.

Reasons may vary for different people but most of us are still trying to get over some horrible experiences. During this process, we develop a constant fear that they might happen again. With that, it is very important to work on your fears until you become free from their shackles confining your mind and body.

If you are going through this phase then let me tell you that you can actually leave those fears behind and move on to a better future. Life stops for no one. You have to accept the reality and move on.

Here’s how to be more positive in life.

Forgive Yourself

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One person you keep blaming for every failure that you experience is yourself. You judge yourself too quickly and you keep blaming yourself for every disaster that happens in your life.

This time, you need to forgive yourself first. It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s completely fine to be wrong sometimes so don’t be tough on yourself. Treat yourself as you treat your friends and family.

See Also: 5 Steps to Loving Yourself and Living Happily Ever After

Don’t Give Your Past The Power

“It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to has a power over you.”

Don’t attach yourself with those sentiments that can’t be set to rewind. Go to a mountaintop and scream your heart out. Make sure you don’t keep those negative experiences inside.

Make A Memory Box

Create a box filled with little things from your childhood. If you lost your childhood stuff, you can start collecting things today. They can be as small as a rock or a leaf but if it reminds you of good times, then keep it in the box.

Whenever you are feeling down, open that box. It’ll make you smile while remembering those happy times.

I personally have a memory box and it always helps me on my bad days. It sends me back to those innocent days and I laugh on my own, feeling better than ever.


According to Paulo Coelho, to move forward, it is necessary to remove the past. You have to take it all out to someone. You have to spill out the things that deep down are bothering you the most. A good conversation always helps. It gives you a new perspective.

He also said that history should be removed by telling your story to a complete stranger. It’s an interesting trick but make sure you don’t freak out someone in the process.

Consider Your Present A Blessing

If you are living even a 1% better life then yesterday, be thankful because millions are still stuck at the same point. The present is the most important part of life because it stays with you forever. The past will always be behind and the future will always be an uncertainty.

Be Proud of Your Scars

Why do you keep trying to hide your scars? They are your battle wounds and medals. It’s a lesson for you and the people around you. Be proud that you are a survivor and a warrior. Make sure to help those around you who are in need of inspiration.

“When you can tell your story without crying you know you’ve healed.”

If you are worried about what others might say about you, then you must accept your own reality first. If you know yourself, you will not be harmed by what others say about you. Once you accept the facts, people’s words won’t matter as long as you are clear with yourself.

Build Your Future

You can either sit in your room all day over thinking the scenarios that might not even happen again or you can start cementing the bricks of your future.

Life is so short and tomorrow could be your last day. Make sure you leave something behind for the world to remember. Always have big future plans and goals so you have something to wake up for every morning.

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