Let’s talk about Your success for a moment. The one you have always dreamed of. The image that fills your mind the moment I say the word.
Yes, that one!
That success that you have been making passes at. That success that you have entertained in surges of motivation. And shelved in moments of apathy. That success that has led you to the glossy covers of magazines. And the promises of self-help books.
You won’t find it in those pages. It is not present in those advertisements.
But such things do serve an enormous need. They provide a seductive sort of luxury. The luxury of avoidance. The guiltless pleasure of procrastination. A glorious distraction to keep you from doing what you know you must do.
Are you ready to look squarely at your dreams? And abandon the mock outrage for not having achieved them?
The person who asks how to be a success, doesn’t really WANT to succeed. And he knows it. He is simply making conversation.
Talking ABOUT success gives him the cheap satisfaction of pretending that he is on the road to success.
But, of course, he is not.
Stop asking What To Do!
No one can help you become a success. And anyone who agrees to give you tips is only stroking his own ego by feeling that he is an expert who is being helpful.
The person who asks for tips is the very same person who isn’t going to follow any of them.
If this is what you want, you are wasting your time reading ANY of my work. Just google success and you will find all the guiltless pleasures and tips about success that you can possibly handle.
I know what you’ve heard. I know what you’ve been told. Let’s dispel some myths.
Success is NOT about getting off the chair and doing something. It is NOT about taking action.
Success is NOT about jotting down positives and negatives on a two-column comparison.
Success is NOT about positive thinking and aphorisms.
Success is NOT about following anything that you’ve been told to do.
Success is a byproduct of hunger.
And if that hunger has to be manufactured, it is NOT hunger!
When you are hungry, you will do all the things you were told to do. And NOT because you were told to do them. They will come from your bones and not other people’s lips.
You having failed to achieved success has nothing to do with you not having done things Right. Or because you didn’t follow the right plan. Or because you didn’t have the correct advice. Or because the Timing wasn’t right.
If you have not achieved success it is because Not Achieving It was, to some degree, okay with you.
And because it was relatively okay with you to remain where you are, you did.
Do not for one second think that I am saying that you Shouldn’t Feel Okay About Being Where You Are. I have no intentions to steer you a certain way, or to motivate you, or to get you on the path to success.
I am saying that the reason that you are where you are is because you are okay with being where you are.
How do I know?
Because if you weren’t okay with it you wouldn’t be there!
Stop the endless searching for advice.
Stop reading the how-to articles.
For they are no match for your extraordinary inertia.
When you absolutely despise where you are. When it’s suffocating you. When it simply is no longer acceptable to you, you will act.
And when you act it will NOT be because someone told you to. But because you will be MOVED to.
Success will happen not so much because following your dream will be so enticing, but because the alternative is simply not an option.
The source of your greatest momentum will not be the happiness that pulls you, but the pain that pushes you.
And mark my words, you will feel the exhilaration of success. And you will feel it in the center of your chest.
Not when you reach the end of your journey, but in that magical moment when you choose to embark upon it.
Author: Kapil Gupta MD
Dr. Gupta helps Execs, Pro Athletes, & Celebs become The God Of Their Own Life. www.KapilGuptaMD.com and www.SiddhaPerformance.com