Even if you consider yourself a mostly positive person, I can bet that a part of you secretly despises this time of the year and all the baggage it brings along.
I know I do.
Another year gone by with so little to show for.
Another new one starting with the same old list of stale goals and rusted dreams.
Who has the motivation to even consider starting something new, much less "resolving" to do it every day?
Does that mean you should give up making New Year’s resolutions all together?
Far from it.
As it turns out, there’s a sneakier way to get yourself to make the change you like. It’s a “secret” trick that marketing gurus have been using for generations to get us to willingly do their bidding, irrespective of what we originally thought.
Consider for example, the case of the ubiquitous diamond rings. Did you know that before the 1930’s, people hardly ever used diamond rings to propose?
Instead, they preferred other exotic gems like opals, rubies, sapphires or turquoise. Harry Oppenheimer, the chairman of De Beers Diamond Company, wanted to change that. So he hired N.W. Ayer & Son, a renowned advertising company. And what the advertising company achieved is no less than a miracle.
Slowly, over the next few years, they put the “a diamond is forever” campaign into effect. That message was repeated over and over - through jewelers, celebrities, magazines, television and even by getting movie scripts and scenes changed – until it was embedded in our psyche.
And the diamond went from being just another gemstone to a lasting symbol of love and devotion. To the extent that a whole generation of people now thinks that no self-respecting guy would ever propose to a girl without a diamond ring.
If you are a salesperson, you know how difficult it is to sell anything, let alone a diamond ring. And yet, thanks to that campaign, a diamond ring pretty much sells itself now anytime someone wants to propose because we are brainwashed into thinking that there is just no other way to propose.
I could rattle off dozens of examples of brilliant marketing campaigns, but you get the point, right?
So, how do we apply this trick to our resolutions?
Simple. Instead of using sheer willpower and determination to attack the resolutions each and every day, we slowly trick our brain into thinking there’s no other alternative.
Slowly, we lead it to believe that it is not an option to be anything but what we resolve to be. Our resolved way of life is the only way going forward.
And, the simplest way to do that, is to pare down your resolution to a simple message and write it down on a piece of paper.
Next, stick it someplace that where you can see it every morning and night. Each morning, read it and tell yourself that you will do your best to live up to it. Each night, read it and think back on how you fared. If you did well, give yourself a little pat on the back.
If not, well, tomorrow’s another day.
Keep at this for a month and watch the change happen... Quietly... Sneakily... Almost miraculously. Just as the diamond found its place in every marriage proposal since the “a diamond is forever” campaign.
To get you started right away, here is a cheat sheet of 88 simple resolutions to choose from. I'm sure one (or 2 or 10) will strike a chord.
Let's get this ball rolling…
- Personal Growth
- “I will hone my talents/skills/unique abilities”
If you have a unique talent/skill/ability, work on getting better at it even if nobody believes in you. Remember Susan Boyle and Paul Potts? I’ve watched these videos many times, and I still get goose bumps every time I see them. Maybe you’re the next undiscovered star?
- “I will learn how to promote myself, without being boastful”
Most people fall in two categories - they are either too boastful, or too shy. Very few people understand the need to promote themselves to get on in this world, without putting people off by seeming boastful. Master the art - and the world will be your oyster.
- “I will give a sh*t”
As you go through life, it’s easy to get jaded and cynical. It’s easier to give up than to care and believe. It’s easy to live life pretending that “it’s not my problem”. Pick a cause and give it all you have and watch what a difference giving a sh*t can make.
- “I won’t give a sh*t”
Then again, there are times when you ought not to give a sh*t - especially if you are working on something that means a lot to you but no one else will understand. Because, no matter how good the cause, there will be always be naysayers and trolls, who can’t rise so they will try to bring you down.
- “I will treat people with respect and kindness”
We often jump to conclusions about people and form preconceived notions about them. Be aware of this, and no matter what your personal opinion of the different people you interact with, always treat them with respect and kindness.
- “I will treat myself with respect and kindness”
On the flip side, we are our own worst critics. We are all painfully aware of every single flaw in our character and shortcomings. Sometimes this makes it hard for us to respect ourselves or makes us beat ourselves up. Be kind to yourself and carry yourself with respect.
- “I will read (or listen to!) at least X number of books each month”
In a world filled with 140-character twitter messages and short pithy blog posts, it seems like hardly anyone ever reads a book anymore. But, every once in a while, it is essential, for our souls (and our attention spans) to read a real book.
- “I will read books (or watch movies or listen to music) in a new genre that I never considered before”
Venture out of the usual and try something new every once in a while. Try reading a book, watching a movie or listening to music that is just not your style. While you are at it, amp it up, and try out a new cuisine. Broaden what you experience and see the mediocrity melt out of your life.
- “I will say Yes more often than I say No”
We all get so very cozy in our comfort zones that we say No to anything that seems unfamiliar. And in the process, we miss out on a ton of opportunities. Start saying Yes more often!
- “I will say No more often than I say Yes”
At the other end of the spectrum, we often say Yes because we are scared - of authority, of hurting someone’s feelings, of rejection. Every time we say Yes, but don’t mean it, it kills a little bit of self esteem. So stop being a pushover/doormat/people pleaser and start saying No when you should.
- “I will simplify my life”
When was the last time you did anything for an extended period of time and did not have a long list of TO-DO running through the back of your head? Simplify your life. Prioritize, delegate, eliminate - do what it takes to trim that TO-DO list so it can help you tame your life, not dominate it!
- “I will develop a conscience. I will quit Guilt.”
As you climb up the corporate ladder, or raise your kids, or build your business, be sure to stay in touch with your conscience and try always to do the right thing. At the same time, when you slip up, instead of wallowing in guilt, work up the courage to say “I’m sorry”, followed immediately by “what can I do to fix it?”. This one simple pledge can take you a long way in life.
- “I will quit complaining/whining/blaming/making excuses”
We all face setbacks and failure. We are all scared of trying new things. And so, we go hide behind excuses or start to complain/whine or the worst of all, go looking for someone else to blame. Enough with it already! It’s about time to start taking responsibility for your actions.
- “I will make a bucket list and start striking items off the list”
Trite as it sounds, let me ask you the clichéd question - If you were to die right now, would have you accomplished everything that you wanted to? Let’s take it a step further - Do you even know all the things you want to do before you die? Just take a little bit of time and put together a bucket list. And then, start working on striking things off.
- “I will be the change I want to see in the world”
Mahatma Gandhi said “Be the change you want to see in the world” and proved that it could be done with nothing more than sheer determination and persistence. If there is something in your world that bothers you, instead of waiting around for things to change (or worse, complaining about it!), go ahead and be the change.
- “I will let the past make me better, not bitter”
Everybody has a past. Everybody. What makes one person different from another is how he views the past, and what he makes of it. What will you do with yours? Admit it or not - it’s a choice.
- “I will find a mentor.”
You can see farther when you are sitting on the shoulders of a giant. Whether you want to make progress in your career, hobbies or life, look for someone who has done it already and seek help.
- “I will be a mentor”
And on the same vein, if you have experience with anything, be a mentor. You will be surprised at how many new things you learn when you try to teach it to someone else.
- “I will not let the fear of failure stop me from trying”
A great musician dies and goes to heaven. He asks St. Peter - “Who is the best musician of all?” hoping to validate his life’s work. St. Peter points to the carpenter in his village. The musician says “I don’t understand - he’s just a carpenter” and St. Peter says “Isn’t that sad?”. If you try you may fail. If you don’t try, you have already failed.
- “I will genuinely root for someone else’s success”
Every single one of us has at some point said “I’m happy for you” with a smile on our face, and a tight knot in our stomachs as we try to suppress jealousy and insecurity. Being genuinely happy for others success does not come naturally to most of us, but training our mind to do just that can open us up to the kind of peace and tranquility that no amount of money can buy!
- “I will be more forgiving, of myself and others”
Unless you live on a remote island (or built an emotional one around you), you will interact with many different people through the day. And there will be misunderstandings. Misinterpretations. Games. Leave it at that. Acknowledge it for what it is. Forgive others, and more importantly, forgive yourself, and move on.
- “I will strive for progress, not perfection”
If you are a perfectionist you are painfully aware of the long line of colleagues/clients waiting for you to deliver the almost-done projects. If you are a parent raising a perfectionist, you know all too well the anger and the frustration your little one goes through each day. Adopt the “progress, not perfection” mantra to focus on what is more important.
- “I will stop second guessing myself”
Second guessing is one of the biggest hurdles in the path to being decisive, which in turn is a prerequisite to becoming a leader. Second guessing can also kill your personal peace and keep you from being content. Resolve to overcome it, one day at a time.
- “I will learn to be grateful for what I have”
Several research studies (e.g., here, here and here) have shown that counting your blessings can make you happier, improve your health and help build better relationships. Even the most negative person could benefit by starting to train themselves in the art of giving thanks. What are you waiting for?
- “I will give selflessly, without expecting anything back, from time to time”
Another trait that pays back big in terms of happiness and well being is generosity. Whenever possible, give. It can be cash, your old clothes, furniture, books, toys or appliances or just your time. Give whatever you can.
- “I will focus on the solutions, not the problems”
When you focus on the problem, you get uneasy, overwhelmed, and fearful. When focus on solutions, you get confident and stress-free. Which one would you rather be? Working on fixing the problems instead of dwelling on them!
- “I will cut down on (and eventually quit) TV”
Think all the way back to 2005-2006. Think of all that’s happened in your life from then through today (2013). Now imagine if that entire period was wiped out from your life... That’s how much TV you are watching assuming that on average, you watch about 2 hours of TV on a weekday and about 4 hours on the weekend and live to be 80 (about 8.5 years of round the clock TV watching!). Can you cut down your TV habit by at least a few hours and do something a little more worthwhile?
- “I will control my time, instead of letting my time control me”
How many times in a week do your stress out because you are late for an appointment? How many times do you scream at your kids because they are running late for school, again? How many opportunities to advance your career, to relax, to spend time with family etc. have you missed because you were just a tad bit late? Of all the things you can control, the one that really matters is probably time!
- “I will complete something that I started but never got around to finishing”
Remember that project you started last summer but never quite finished? Or the cookbook you bought, but never tried a single recipe out of? Or the power tools and the piles of wood you got on sale? Get that project done, and see what a whoosh of joy it can bring in!
- “I will wake up at X am every morning”
According to this research study, “early larks” tend to be healthier and happier with life. And for the “night owls” out there (I am one!) the good news is that as people get older they tend to switch their tendencies to be “early larks”. So well, if we are eventually going to become “early larks” why not switch to it consciously right now and start reaping the benefits sooner?
- “I will travel to new places”
Travel lets you explore new cultures. It opens your eyes to resplendence of mother nature. It offers you a chance to unwind, relax and contemplate. Or it lets you push yourself to your limits. Is there a better way to improve your life?
- “I will declutter my home”
“The more things you own, the more things own you." We, as a society, have become obsessed by stuff. Clear out the unwanted stuff and you will also clear out the stress in your life.
- “I will volunteer”
It is better to give than to get. If the main
excusereason you have not tried volunteering so far is that you are busy, take a look at this article on Oprah.com for some suggestions. Alternately, you can look for opportunities online for micro-volunteering, volunteering-on-demand or at the UN online volunteering site.
- “I will be more environmentally conscious”
If you can afford a environmentally friendly car, start driving one (or saving for one). If not, make the move to be environmentally conscious one little step at a time. Reuse, recycle or repurpose anything that you can. Switch out all your light bulbs with CFLs. Buy local. Do what you can to reduce your carbon footprint.
- “I will fall in love (again)”
To state a cliché - it’s better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved. Dare to fall in love!
- “I will find ways to stay in love”
That said, falling in love is the easy part. Staying in love - that’s a whole other story. Do what it takes to stay in love - carve out time for each other, find ways to effectively communicate your feelings, stop nagging, quit keeping score, treat each other with respect, be kind, forgive and forget, quit being needy/demanding...
- “I will hang in there through rough times”
It doesn’t matter whether you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth or in the poorhouse - chances are at some point, life will be rough. If you are going through one of those down times right now, you can either throw in the towel and wallow in self pity, or grit your teeth and come out the other side a much stronger person. What’s it gonna be?
- “I will move on”
Dreams die. Relationships get tangled. Businesses fail. Companies restructure. Life goes on. There is a time to hang on, and there is a time to move on. Take a long hard look at your situation, and if it is the time to move on, then do it decisively - with humility and dignity.
- “I will make peace with parents/siblings”
There ought to be an expiry date on how long you can blame your parents/siblings for things that don’t quite work out. Or the mistakes that they actually made just because they are human. Make peace. Life is too short to stay angry for too long with those closest to you.
Note: This is one of the biggest areas of focus for me this year. If you choose any of the parenting resolutions below, join me at afineparent.com and we’ll keep each other honest :)
- “I will spend more time with kids”
Between work, school, soccer practice, trying to put healthy food on the table and everything else that goes with living in the modern society, we forget the importance of spending quality time with our kids. Pledge to spend X minutes of uninterrupted (no TV, phone or Internet!) time with your kids each day and see what a difference it will make to your relationship (once you get past the initial awkwardness!)
- “I will be a ‘Do as I do’ parent instead of a ‘Do as I say’ parent”
How many times have you lectured your kids to be more patient and yet whined in their presence about the wait time at the doctor’s office or a checkout counter? How many times have you told them about the value of punctuality while being late to pick them up? Children learn more from what they see than from what we tell them to do. Try consciously to be the person you want your children to grow up to be.
- “I will be more intentional about my parenting”
Think of the last time you screamed at your kids. Did you do it so they will “learn a lesson” or was it because you were stressed out? Or maybe because that’s how your parents did it? A lot of what we do as parents is not intentional, which is very unfair given that we are raising human beings! Vow to be a more intentional parent.
- “I will find ways to make learning fun”
Kids are kids. They don’t want to study or learn. They just want to have fun. But as a parent, you cannot possibly let them run amok. So figure out ways to make learning fun and instill a love for learning in your kids!
- “I will have fun with my kids (irrespective of whatever else is going on in my life)”
Parenting is quite possibly the hardest job in the world. Add to that the fact that in most households both parents hold a job of some sort, and you can see why the fun has gone out of family. Find ways to turn everyday situations into light hearted fun - it’s good for you and good for them!
- “I will really listen to my kids”
I’m not an expert here and I am still learning to do this - so I am just going to refer you to the book that has really helped me (and going by the reviews on Amazon, a lot of other parents as well) - How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk by Faber and Mazlish. Check it out.
- “I will make sure we go on a family vacation”
Never underestimate the benefits of great family vacations! Yes, it may seem like a hassle to travel with little kids or teenagers, but in the long run, the memories they cherish makes it well worth it. Aim for at least one family vacation each year, and customize it to fit your family budget. If you have older kids, get them involved right from the planning stages.
- “I will make sure the family eats at least one meal together each day”
If you can eat all your meals together like the good old days when the family go together at the table that’s great. But I am assuming this is not an option for most of the families in this day and age. So aim for at least one meal together at the table (or elsewhere where there is no TV!). If you have never done this before, it may be awkward at first, but slowly, you will learn the art of conversation that has built family relationships for generations.
- “I will instill healthy eating habits in my kids”
The food habits you instill in your kids now are the habits they are likely to carry through life. You don’t necessarily have to force feed your kids fruits/vegetables they don’t like, but you need to cultivate the idea that it is important to eat fruits/vegetables. Limit the number of unhealthy snacks and juices. Insist on eating some breakfast. And so on. (As a side note, this will help you age better too!)
- “I will encourage my kids to have an active lifestyle”
Let’s face it - it’s almost impossible to keep kids from watching TV, playing computer games and browsing these days. That said, we can instill in them a love for a healthy lifestyle. Enroll them in sports classes they like. Encourage them to play outdoor with neighbors and friends. Go throw ball with them or take a hike together. If you have older kids, go to the gym together. The possibilities are endless.
- “I will trust my kids”
No matter how much we want to, we cannot watch over our kids all the time. It is important right from the beginning to establish a culture of openness and trust in your household.
- “I will help my kids connect with their grandparents”
When I worked at a large company, they used to have this nice concept called “skip level meetings” when you essentially meet your boss’s boss without your boss being present to sort out any grievances. It is important that your kids can have someone like that too, so hook them up with their grandparents :). Besides, it is just a great way to build a bridge across generations, and it is good for your kids to be totally spoiled once in awhile!
- “I will be fair and reasonable”
Admit it. If you have more than one kid, one of them tugs at your heartstrings a little more than the others. No matter what you say about all your kids being equal to you, you are but human. And that is fine. Just don’t let that affect how you treat them though. Also, remember being fair and reasonable means, if there is a mistake on your part, you own it and bear the consequences!
- “I will be consistent”
No, you can’t always be consistent - you are not a machine. That said, aim for being as consistent as you possibly can. If you say “No more than 1 hour of TV each day”, stick with it and don’t make it “No more than 1 hour of TV each day, unless there is a show I really want to watch, in which case you can watch it with me” :)
- “I will be more patient”
There are 3 things that you need to stock up on when you have kids: (a) diapers - to get you through the first 2-3 years (b) money - to get you through their college years and (c) patience - to get you through life without being remembered for multiple-homicides. This is definitely a worthwhile pledge to make!
- “I will not fight with my spouse in front for the kids”
Notice, I did not say “I will not fight with my spouse”. I know that isn’t a realistic goal for most normal couples :) And some small skirmishes are OK in front of the kids. But if things start to get ugly, shelf it and duke it out later when you have some privacy.
- “Irrespective of my relationship with my spouse, I will acknowledge my spouse for the good parenting acts”
No matter what your feelings are about your spouse, she/he is still your child’s parent. And a parent-child relationship is one of the most sacred ones - don’t malign it for personal vendetta.
- “I will consciously try to instill good values in my kids”
Imagine a high-flying executive who has to make a critical call about who gets a lucrative contract from his company. And he receives an offer of a hefty untraceable bribe. If that executive is your child in the future, what will he do? Now is your chance to set their moral compass right so they can do the right thing even when no one’s watching. Don’t miss this chance.
- “I will consciously teach my kids to be good stewards of stuff and money”
On the same vein, some day your child will be responsible for her own family. And quite possibly be at the helm of a big company or a business. Are you teaching her the necessary skills to be a good steward?
- “I will consciously teach my kids to have good self image and self confidence”
It does not matter whether your daughter inherited aunt Lillian’s slender figure or aunt Zelda’s amply endowed body, figure out how to arm her with the necessary tools to feel confident with herself.
- “I will be OK that my kids are very different than me, and encourage them to be themselves”
Life would be so much simpler if all our kids were mini-me’s. Boring, but easier. Since that is not the case, accept the fact that your child is who he is and do your best to let them blossom into their own unique selves.
- “I will encourage my kids to follow their dreams instead of imposing my unfulfilled dreams on them”
A lot of parents, including yours truly, think that kids are a second chance to do all the things that we never quite accomplished in our life. We’ve carried the burden of our unfulfilled dreams all our lives, do we really want to transfer it to them now? Let them dream their own dreams, and if you really care, help them make their own dreams come true.
- “I will respond to my children in a positive manner”
There are so many ways to do this - think rewards instead of punishment, praise for job well done instead of criticism for something not done right, a smile and a hug at the end of a busy day... you get the idea.
- “I will try consciously not to embarrass my kids in front of their friends”
Ok, this one’s a toughie... it was just yesterday that you were the coolest person in their eyes and now they don’t even want to be seen with you. It’s OK, they still love you. If you really want them to think that you are still the coolest, just let them be, and make a conscious effort to not embarrass them in their friends’ presence.
- “I will understand my financial situation”
How much do you make? Where is the money going? How much do you need to save in view of your short term and long term goals? How long will it take you to get there?
- “I will spend less than I earn”
This is the most basic of all personal finance rules, and yet most of us tend to get carried away in our unintentional attempts to one-up the Jones. Get the basics right, and the rest will take care of itself.
- “I will cut down on (and eventually quit) buying “stuff” that I don’t really need”
Every single one of us is probably guilty of buying “stuff” that we’ve never used because it was clearance priced. It does not matter if you got a $100 item for $10 - if you don’t need the item, that $10 was a sheer waste.
- “I will reduce/eliminate my debt (if any)”
One of the first steps to reaching financial freedom is to get rid of your debt. If you have any consumer debt (credit cards, car loan, student loans etc.), start attacking it with all your might. Once your consumer debt is gone, you can decide if it is worth it to you to eliminate your mortgage payments.
- “I will save for a rainy day (at least 10% of your income)”
No matter what your current financial situation, start saving at least 10% of your income, preferably much more, for emergencies, retirement, kids’ college, travel etc.
- “I will find ways to increase my income”
At some point you’ve got to realize that there is only so much you can save. When you hit that wall the only way to improve your financial situation is to increase what you bring in. If you put your heart to it, it is amazing how many different ways there are to make some extra money.
- “I will find peace with what I have, without giving up the desire to earn more”
It is one thing to want to increase your income; it is another to obsess over it. Figure out a way to find happiness with whatever you have, but don’t let that stop you from always being on the lookout for more ways to earn.
- “I will find ways to diversify my income”
One of the biggest mistake most people make it to rely on one source for income - which is usually their primary job. When the company starts restructuring this leads to a lot of stress and worrying. Diversifying your income is one of the best ways to make yourself layoff-resilient.
- “I will find ways to give”
Have you seen the money savvy piggy bank? It would be great if we grownups had the discipline to do that with all our finances.
- “I will make sure I have enough insurance”
Do you have insurance - health, home, car, liability, life, supplemental etc? Figure out what your family’s needs are and buy sufficient insurance to cover those needs.
- “I will make a will”
Gruesome as the task may be, put together a will now. If something happens to you, make sure the family does not have to deal with financial worries, in addition to trying to cope with your loss. You can DIY is quite easily these days using sites like legalzoom.
- “I will learn (or get better at) investing”
There are a lot of people out there who are too scared to venture into the world of investing. At the other end of the spectrum, there are as many folks who dive head first into the investing without a clue of what they are doing. Figure out a spot for yourself that’s at neither extreme!
- “I will pay my taxes correctly, and on time”
The last thing you want to deal with is a tax audit. Make sure you do due diligence when you pay your taxes and make sure you pay it on time.
- “I will spend X dollars each year on continuing education”
Remember to never stop growing and one way to ascertain it is to set aside some money each year for continuing education in college, conferences, training etc.
Health & Fitness
- “I will lose X pounds or Y inches...”
If you are overweight or if you need to lose a few inches, then by all means go for this. If you are just obsessed with being skinny and otherwise have a healthy BMI, maybe it’s better to skip this one and focus on improving your self-esteem instead.
- “I will exercise at least X times a week”
Be realistic with your goals. Find an exercise buddy to keep you accountable. Choose the kind of exercise you enjoy doing. Give yourself a fighting chance of success instead of setting yourself up for failure.
- “I will choose to incorporate exercise into everyday tasks”
Walk/bike whenever possible. Take the stairs. Park in the farthest spot. Dance to your favorite music. Do your own yard work. Clean your home. If you are determined, there are innumerable ways to convert your sedentary lifestyle into an active one!
- “I will cut down on (and eventually quit) my addictions (smoking/drinking/etc)”
Enough already. How many more research studies do you need to see before realizing that your addictions are affecting your relationships, impairing your judgment, causing stress, making you unhappy and ultimately killing you? Set a realistic schedule and kick the habit.
- “I will get at least X hours of sleep each night”
Some people can get on with very few hours of sleep. Others need more. That said, I think I can safely bet that every single one of us is short changing ourselves in comparison to how much we need. Find out your magic number and aim to get that many hours of sleep each night.
- “I will drink more water”
This one is so easy, and yet so many of us forget to drink enough water each day! Just keep a jug/bottle/cup of water handy and keep sipping.
- “I will switch to healthy diet/snacks”
No matter what your eating habit, with very little effort, you can make the switchover to healthy eating. Just start out by reducing and moderating your intake of processed foods, fats, salt, carbonated drinks, added sugars, red meats and irrespective of whether you lose any weight or not, you will have a much healthier body.
- “I will run a marathon/triathlon/etc”
Running a marathon or a triathlon etc. is not just about exercise - it’s about pushing yourself towards a goal and a sense of accomplishment when you reach it, it’s about camaraderie, it’s about stress relief. If you’ve always wanted to try it, now is the time to get started.
- “I will learn a new sport”
Always wanted to learn tennis? Or golf? How about skydiving or parasailing? Maybe something more basic like soccer? Well, what are you waiting for? You know you are not getting any younger, right?
- “I will figure out ways to cut the stress”
Raise your hand if you generally enjoy your work, but there is this one manager/client/colleague that is driving your stress level through the roof. Or if you could have finished a project yesterday, but you let it slip until the deadline and now you are stressing out? For most people it is probably impossible to eliminate all the stress, but if we take a critical look, I’m sure we can cut out a lot of it.
- “I will figure out ways to deal with the stress I cannot cut out”
So, that brings us to the last point - how do you deal with the stress that you just cannot eliminate? Will you let it send you to an early grave or will you figure out ways to de-stress at the end of each day/week/month/year?
Sulking. Whining. Complaining. Wishing.
After all, there are 6 billion other people on this planet doing just that, you would blend right in.
Or, suck it up and get up offa that thing. Pick a simple resolution (or 2 or 10) from this list or come up with one on your own.
Chin up and declare it in public (mine are in the comments section below). Put it on a piece of paper and read it each morning and night with a little bit of reflection and well, yes, resolution. And let the magical change process take over.
Come next year at this time, you will not just be a year older, but decidedly a year better. And a step closer to the life you’ve always wanted, a life worth talking about, a life worth living!
So, what’s it gonna be?
Are you in?
|Written on 1/1/2013 by Sumitha, who after writing this rather long post ought to be on a vacation. Except, she’s not, and will see you around ;) In the mean time, she hopes you are inspired to pick a few resolutions. And if any of them are related to parenting, she invites you to stop by afineparent.com and hang out with other like-minded folks with similar goals.|