Some of it may not be relevant, but for the most part, it’s good stuff.
Will you heed the warnings of your elders and make changes to your life?
But don’t worry; you’re not any more pig-headed than the rest of us.
We all tend to think we’re invincible until, well, life happens.
We’re flying high when something sucker punches us in the gut.
It could be layoffs or the loss of a loved one, but you find yourself wishing you were better prepared.
We wish we had kept our resumes current and gone on more interviews. We wish we had said the things we wanted to say and spent more time with the ones we love.
But it’s too late.
If only we had listened to that sage advice. But the truth is, we’re not hardwired to learn that way.
Here are three reasons we need to learn the hard way:
- We learn best from experience – According to Benjamin Bloom’s “Taxonomy of Learning” theory, there are three domains of learning: thinking, feeling and doing. And guess what? Of course, they are all related to memory, but they also involve tying emotions to those memories. When someone gives us advice, the experience usually isn’t emotional. We listen, maybe even try to remember, but unless it evokes a strong feeling, it’ll always just be advice instead of a lesson learned.
- It’s how we were raised – How did you learn what “hot” and “cold” meant? If you never felt either sensation, you would still be confused. Someone could try to explain how it felt, but it just wouldn’t work. Even the words used to describe hot and cold would be off limits. If you don’t know cold, you certainly couldn’t understand levels of cold, like blistering, freezing or chilly.
- We think we’re far from it – Most of us are pretty grounded. We know that nothing lasts forever and our lives will eventually change. We just think it’s going to happen sometime in the distant future. So, why worry about it now?
Certainly, you could have saved yourself some heartache by heeding the warnings of your elders, but then you would never really learn.
Still, there are some lessons that are better left to the imagination.
If someone advises you to hug your mom more often and tell her that you love her, just do it.
|Written on 10/20/2012 by Christina Dillon. Christina Dillon is a regular contributor at High Powered Mutant, a blog about one entrepreneur’s journey to a successful life and all that comes along with financial independence. Many people think success is hard, but it’s actually far from it.|