5 Quick Ways to Deal With the Confusion and Conflict Within You
Have you been feeling confused and conflicted lately? Most people right now are going through a transition. There’s something going on, and you feel it in some part of yourself.You may be confused, disorganized, or even frustrated. You don’t know what’s what anymore and life doesn’t make sense.
It used to be logical and you used to know what to do, but now it’s all up in the air. I know, because I’ve been there, and in this article I’ll give you five quick ways to deal with it.
Before a new order can emerge, there is chaos. Similarly, whenever you are about to have a breakthrough you will experience confusion and chaos. Confusion really is a prerequisite state in order for us to have breakthrough experiences. This means that whenever you feel confused, there is something happening within you.
It doesn’t always seem like that, but once you get through to the other side, you will see that something has changed for the better. The same thing happens when you learn something new. At first, you feel confused and it just doesn’t make sense. But when you return to the material a few days or weeks later, suddenly you understand more than you did before.
Do you feel like you’re whole life is crumbling away? Again, this is just an external manifestation of point #1 above. Whenever you feel confused, accept whatever goes on within you. It may be hard in the beginning, because it scary to face your fears and other negative emotions. Most people try to run away from their emotions, and you can probably guess where that leads. Just take a look around you and see how happy most people are (hint: they are miserable).
Look inside, and breath into your emotions. Accept whatever is there, and get curious about what kind of shape your feelings are, what kind of color, and how they move within your body.It sounds weird, but it works when you are willing to try it.
The more you let go of the old, the easier your life will be. When you try to hold on, you suffer. Letting go means being open to new ideas. Everything is constantly coming and going. The job you once had no longer exists, but when the door closes, another one opens.
The problem is that most people stay and knock at the closed door for the rest of their life. Then they wonder why no one is opening the door.This doesn’t have to happen, because you can open your mind, release the old and embrace the new. This is scary, because it is the unknown.And we humans tend to like what’s familiar. Even to the point where we will hold onto negative emotions and behaviors rather than let go, because they are more familiar.It’s a bit scary when you put it like that, isn’t it?
- Get Help
If you want to speed up your progress, I recommend you work with someone. I’m not talking about a psychotherapist. I’m talking about something like a qualified NLP practitioner, a hypnotherapist, or even a good EFT practitioner.
The reason I make these statements, is because in my life, the biggest changes have happened by using NLP and both myself and my clients. You can’t always see where you are stuck, and that is where another fresh pair of eyes comes in. The problem is that most people don’t like to ask for help, because it is viewed as a sign of weakness in today’s society. I used to think like this as well, but I didn’t start to really excel until I started opening up to coaching and getting feedback.
It might be something for you to consider, or not. It’s always up to you.
This cycle will continually repeat itself, because that’s what cycles do. Just like a wave builds up and crashes and returns to the sea, so will your life have its ups and downs. The sooner you accept that, the better you will feel. You will go through confusion and clarity over and over again. It’s a part of life.
The bottom line is that most confusion and conflict is created within you. That means that you alone hold the keys to your salvation.This isn’t easy for most people to accept, which is why they might dismiss an article like this.In the end, only you can make a difference in your life, so the question is, will you?
|Written on 9/19/2011 by Henri Junttila. Henri writes at Wake Up Cloud, where he shares his personal tips on how you can live the life you know you deserve. When you feel ready to take action, get his free course: How to Find Your Passion (And Build a Business Around It).||Photo Credit: Piddleville|