When setting goals, checking off items on the to-do list, or simply going to the grocery store, bumps are bound to come up along the way. Clearly I don't have to tell you that; the challenges we face everyday are not uncommon. What I want to question is a little deeper than that: Is your mind causing these bumps? Are you setting yourself up for a rocky road?
"One reason why people don’t achieve their goals is because they don’t know what part of them choose the goal.” ~ John Kehoe
The best way to keep things smooth along your journey is to start by recognizing the great trickster that triggers these speed bumps - your brain!
Here are 5 ways to recognize when your mindset is holding you back:
#5: Lots of reasons and excuses show up.
Maybe you've had a goal to lose weight. You know there isn't any "secret" to loosing weight. The real secret to losing weight is to get your butt to the gym and stop eating so much; but following through takes more than will power - so you never bother to go.
If you're mind is making up excuses to stop you from doing what you know you should be doing, then recognize that this is the great trickster at work. That mass of molecules between your ears doesn't like change - so it's going to do whatever it can to trick you into staying the same. Just ask yourself who's in really in control here: you or your mind?
#4: Lack of Consistency or Self Discipline.
I'm not a big fan of the term "self-discipline" because in my opinion it implies that self-discipline is work and it really isn't. Self discipline just requires additional thinking. It means thinking about what you want and then going out and doing what's necessary to get it.
One way to do that is by intentionally creating your day. Instead of letting your day create you, you create it. There's no magic here, just a simple system. Start by crafting a daily plan. Craft a plan everyday by writing out the 5 most important actions you'll take that day. Do this everyday and you'll be on your way to greatness.
#3: The words "I can't" show up.
Maybe you're really determined - you don't spew reasons or excuses - you just do what you need to do. You're consistent and you get results. But maybe, just maybe you get to the point where you hit a wall - a stumbling block, or an obstacle, and this little voice peeps up that says, "I can't."
That little voice can transform a resourceful person into a frustrated and defeated person. Yes, the mind has that much power.
This tiny little voice comes from a deeper level. It comes from not being worthy or not being good enough. At some point you've got let go of these old ways of thinking because they don't support you. The real question you want to ask yourself is this: If you're not worthy enough now, then when will you be?
#2: Feelings of Doubt or Uncertainty
If you set goals that break new ground and take you to higher levels of performance then you're bound to feel doubtful at times. You're breaking new ground and starting something completely new so it can be awkward at first.
But if you're going to persist and achieve your goals then you've got to overcome these feelings of doubt. You want to expect good things in your life.
"If you do not expect it, you will not find the unexpected, for it is hard to find and difficult." ~ Heraclitus, 500 B.C.
You want to put yourself in a state of expectation. Because when you expect good things, they usually show up.
See the video I put together for this last way to recognize when your mind is holding you back:
|Written on 10/12/2009 by Steve Martile. Steve is a Life Direction Coach and the creator of Freedom Education - Mind Power for Your Personal Growth. He is also the author of the ebook that you can download here: The Genius Within YOU.|