I spend a lot of time at the offices of some huge companies. Every time, without fail, I walk past huge cubicle farms. An occasional balloon may be hovering over some birthday boy's workstation, but aside from that, it's a sea of muted faces. If I had to guess, I'd say that less than 10% of the people I see actually smile, let alone say "HI!".
Who can blame them; I am a guy in a suit. Suits scare people but us sales guys have to dress the part when we're meeting with executives. Maybe it is me. Maybe I not the giving off the warm and fuzzies either. Who knows?
What I do know and what I have learned is that everyone can and should do what it takes to become more approachable. John Wesley of Pick the Brain thinks the same thing.
"Maybe you’re tired, nervous, or a person who doesn’t enjoy big crowds. In these cases, you can actually put yourself into a more likable mood by assuming more likable body language."Heck, I am so introverted I don't even 'reply to all' in email. For me, these tips are critical to my existence because I chose a very social occupation. John's article today was good as he shares some ideas on becoming more approachable as well as learning how body language plays a part in communicating.
Give it a read and then consider how you act at work or even at home. What vibes are you sending out?
Rock the Party: How to Appear Friendly and Approachable at Pick the Brain.
-Jay
